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Girl invited herself to my place, what should I do?

erivera571

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Basically I ran into this girl that's been eyeing me a lot lately, she walked up, called me by name, and asked me about her iPod:

"blah blah blah" *small talk ensues* She gave me her name, long story short she asked if she could come by my place this weekend and use my computer for her iTunes. I'm not sure what to make of this, I'm thinking one of two explanations:

A - She likes me and is using iPod as an excuse to hang out w/ me

OR

B - She is just using me for my computer and iTunes

Keep in mind I have had no previous interactions w/ this girl.

Thoughts?
 

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And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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so you think she either has been "spying" to finally arrive at the opportunity to move forward with her devious plan to utilize you for your computer so she can upload a few new songs to her ipod, even though everyone on earth - including her friends probably - have computers that she can use. Playboy, I think she likes you. You lucky dog, you:)
 
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sosocool is right; she has to know plenty of people with computer access. It sounds like you might even be able to beat it up the first time she comes over. Start off with the kino as soon as she arrives at your place. Try to get her on the couch eventually to watch a movie or something...make sure to sit right next to her. Be playful with her...try to kiss her...escalate...


But sh1t, maybe she is using you for your computer...still worth a shot!
 

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Did she tell you, "erivera571, I heard you've got the biggest and greatest hard drive 'puter in town. I want to test it"?

How old are you/she? Are you attracted to her? Did she give you her phone number?

Anyway, I would tell her to come over late at night, as you're busy all day during weekend. If she shows, you know she wants your hard drive, and if she doesn't, you would have been home already, gettting ready to go to sleep.
 

erivera571

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Gangster Of Love said:
Did she tell you, "erivera571, I heard you've got the biggest and greatest hard drive 'puter in town. I want to test it"?

How old are you/she? Are you attracted to her? Did she give you her phone number?

Anyway, I would tell her to come over late at night, as you're busy all day during weekend. If she shows, you know she wants your hard drive, and if she doesn't, you would have been home already, gettting ready to go to sleep.
Not really, she didn't mention anything in terms of computer skills during the convo, just mainly talking about her iPod.

As far as age, I'm 21 and she's 19. And yea, she's pretty hot imo. No, she didn't give her number, but I'm pretty sure I would've gotten it anyways if I had asked.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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erivera571 said:
Not really, she didn't mention anything in terms of computer skills during the convo, just mainly talking about her iPod.

As far as age, I'm 21 and she's 19. And yea, she's pretty hot imo. No, she didn't give her number, but I'm pretty sure I would've gotten it anyways if I had asked.
LoL, young man, I was playing when I said "hard drive", etc.

Anyway, why didn't you get her digits?

Next time she sees you, tell her, "Ok, If I let you use it, what will you do for me?" make her get creative, until she says "whatever you want", then tell her to cook for you, or bring you some take out. Off course, the frame here is that her looks alone will not be enough for you. She gets a lot of stuff for free, and favors just because of her looks, but with you, it will be different. Do it in a playful way that communicates you are onto what hot chicks do to guys. :D
 

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Doesn't matter. Rule #1: ALWAYS assume she likes you :woo:
 

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You got this chick in the palm of your hand. Have fun!
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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