"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
girl in my college class -- help
- Thread starter seabumma
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
"hey seabumma, yea i am on campus but im gonna be working on a project due tomorrow! Sorry! But would you wanna grab some lunch sometime next quarter? (I would suggest this week but my sched is full and im out of town next week)
""She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How should I respond to her text?
Unbridled_Phoenix
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Dude this is sad, your inner game needs serious work. I would've dropped this girl a long time ago, but then again, I would never act like you in the first place.
The only chance you have with her is to cut off all contact, don't let her see you for awhile, then the next time she does, you'd better be a badass leader in your socioeconomic realm with women sliming the floor around you and you not giving a f*ck. A bazooka on your shoulder, a cigar in your mouth and a thoroughbred under your saddle thrown in for good measure may make her look at you in a different way.
"Be the Flame, not the Moth."
this was my response just now:
"I do not want lunch next quarter, but thanks for the offer. haha just messing, yea thats fine, always down for food
. Good luck on the project""The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Nope not Ohio state. I wonder if anyone from here does go to my college though, that would be pretty funny.Darth said:
So guys, I think i've done my part with this girl. Should I wait for her to contact me next quarter? OR should I send her a text sometime next quarter asking when I can take her out so I can fit her into my schedule?
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Agreed.GuanYu said:
@OP: Okay ElStud, stop posting. You ask questions, they answer, and you do it anyways... and fail miserably and pathetically.
BTW, are you and seabumma and seabuma the same? Troll?
It's like you come here and post to keep up your self-esteem... saying everything you're doing is right. Like you're putting up a show for us so you think we think that you're doing a good job. But in real life, you're creeping the hell out of this chick and you're being needy and clingy. But hey, at least you think that we think you're doing a good job.