"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Girl in my chemistry class

dudewut

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Errr how do I do this again? I havent done this in a long time....about 2 years, mostly the girls I went out with/have oneitis with approached me or are people I knew from before who became single.

I am kinda hesitant because she seems like the Ice princess type of person, like she does not smile at all (who smiles at a lab anyway? well except me and my buddies, we make everything fun) and she walks out of class like really quick, you know the type. And I am worried that if she blows me off that 4 hours we have at lab will be really, really uncomfortable
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You're putting way to much pressure on this approach.

All you have to do is talk about class. Then transition into talking about life. Then talk about your social life. Perhaps the awesome weekend you had. Then you say, "Yeah that bar/club/place is awesome. We should go some time. What's your number."

It's a relaxed approach. It doesn't have the burden of asking someone out on a "DATE". It's just an invitation to come out for some fun.
 

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Iceberg said:
You're putting way to much pressure on this approach.

All you have to do is talk about class. Then transition into talking about life. Then talk about your social life. Perhaps the awesome weekend you had. Then you say, "Yeah that bar/club/place is awesome. We should go some time. What's your number."

It's a relaxed approach. It doesn't have the burden of asking someone out on a "DATE". It's just an invitation to come out for some fun.
trust me, I will talk to her its just that I got a "dont talk to me" vibe from her for some reason...I mean we do talk about class and she approaches our side and talks to my group about chemistry stuff, other than that we dont even say hi outside of class.
 

Deicide

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Just go approach her. You have nothing to lose. Once you have approached enough, you stop caring what people think of you. I'm not good at cold approaching by any means, but I've done enough of them to know that you have to go for what your heart and mind want, otherwise you will keep regretting it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I will have a test here, I will say hi next time I see her on the hallway then I will know what I should do then.....
 
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