"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Girl in my chemistry class

dudewut

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Errr how do I do this again? I havent done this in a long time....about 2 years, mostly the girls I went out with/have oneitis with approached me or are people I knew from before who became single.

I am kinda hesitant because she seems like the Ice princess type of person, like she does not smile at all (who smiles at a lab anyway? well except me and my buddies, we make everything fun) and she walks out of class like really quick, you know the type. And I am worried that if she blows me off that 4 hours we have at lab will be really, really uncomfortable
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You're putting way to much pressure on this approach.

All you have to do is talk about class. Then transition into talking about life. Then talk about your social life. Perhaps the awesome weekend you had. Then you say, "Yeah that bar/club/place is awesome. We should go some time. What's your number."

It's a relaxed approach. It doesn't have the burden of asking someone out on a "DATE". It's just an invitation to come out for some fun.
 

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Iceberg said:
You're putting way to much pressure on this approach.

All you have to do is talk about class. Then transition into talking about life. Then talk about your social life. Perhaps the awesome weekend you had. Then you say, "Yeah that bar/club/place is awesome. We should go some time. What's your number."

It's a relaxed approach. It doesn't have the burden of asking someone out on a "DATE". It's just an invitation to come out for some fun.
trust me, I will talk to her its just that I got a "dont talk to me" vibe from her for some reason...I mean we do talk about class and she approaches our side and talks to my group about chemistry stuff, other than that we dont even say hi outside of class.
 

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Just go approach her. You have nothing to lose. Once you have approached enough, you stop caring what people think of you. I'm not good at cold approaching by any means, but I've done enough of them to know that you have to go for what your heart and mind want, otherwise you will keep regretting it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I will have a test here, I will say hi next time I see her on the hallway then I will know what I should do then.....
 
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