"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl I'm dating constantly giving me "s**t"

BJP1991

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Not in a bad way. Teasing, joking, light name calling - seemingly normal things, to me, in the early stages of a potential relationship and hooking up together.

What isnt normal is that lately it is almost CONSTANT. Sometimes text, sometimes in-person. Nothing ever insulting or rejecting to me, light goofy jabs though. Usually I turn it on her/make it sound like a compliment/exaggerate on it, or just flat out ignore it (best strategy for text).

What's your experience with this? I think sometimes it is a super weak sh*t test - which I bypass using one of the methods listed above.

Is this a red flag? I've always done more teasing of a girl than them of me - and I still do a bit with her, but hers are way more frequent...

We have sex regularly and she is frequently asking to hangout or come over (usually 2 times a week or so).

Thoughts? Anything I should maybe do?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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EyeBRollin

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Yes it’s a red flag. Women with high interest don’t throw zingers. She doesn’t value you.

Name calling other than nicknames is disrespectful. You need to put her in her place. Failure to comply will result in withdrawal of your attention. This chick is already on her way out, mate. You can turn it around if you stand up to her.
 

BJP1991

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Yes it’s a red flag. Women with high interest don’t throw zingers. She doesn’t value you.

Name calling other than nicknames is disrespectful. You need to put her in her place. Failure to comply will result in withdrawal of your attention. This chick is already on her way out, mate. You can turn it around if you stand up to her.

Hmm, so how does one suggest doing that exactly? My usual strategy is ignoring it entirely - especially when it's text - then it shows her I dont care to reply and it doesnt phase me.
 

Ohso-Phresh

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Not in a bad way. Teasing, joking, light name calling - seemingly normal things, to me, in the early stages of a potential relationship and hooking up together.

What isnt normal is that lately it is almost CONSTANT. Sometimes text, sometimes in-person. Nothing ever insulting or rejecting to me, light goofy jabs though. Usually I turn it on her/make it sound like a compliment/exaggerate on it, or just flat out ignore it (best strategy for text).

What's your experience with this? I think sometimes it is a super weak sh*t test - which I bypass using one of the methods listed above.

Is this a red flag? I've always done more teasing of a girl than them of me - and I still do a bit with her, but hers are way more frequent...

We have sex regularly and she is frequently asking to hangout or come over (usually 2 times a week or so).

Thoughts? Anything I should maybe do?
Specific examples would be good for better feedback.

If you are both having a good time there’s nothing wrong, she’s into you, keep having fun with it.

Use the opportunity to up your skills.

Do you transition into playful dirty talk during sex?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Dash Riprock

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To pull a line from Stripes: "Lighten up Frances."

She's playful, so what? Maybe you're too serious, stolid, or overly sensitive. Would you rather date a princess, AW, or b*itch? Hit her back with a few zingers.

Be playful, not a drip.

Good luck.
 

dude99

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Not in a bad way. Teasing, joking, light name calling - seemingly normal things, to me, in the early stages of a potential relationship and hooking up together.

What isnt normal is that lately it is almost CONSTANT. Sometimes text, sometimes in-person. Nothing ever insulting or rejecting to me, light goofy jabs though. Usually I turn it on her/make it sound like a compliment/exaggerate on it, or just flat out ignore it (best strategy for text).

What's your experience with this? I think sometimes it is a super weak sh*t test - which I bypass using one of the methods listed above.

Is this a red flag? I've always done more teasing of a girl than them of me - and I still do a bit with her, but hers are way more frequent...

We have sex regularly and she is frequently asking to hangout or come over (usually 2 times a week or so).

Thoughts? Anything I should maybe do?
I find girls who grew up with brothers tend to be good ball busters because they understand guys better than most women who didnt grow up with brothers do. Especially if they had older brothers that busted their chops and it became fun banter for them

Is it a red flag? Not unless it is down right disrespect. Let your skin thicken a little and she may just show you she is a cool chick.
 

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We have sex regularly and she is frequently asking to hangout or come over (usually 2 times a week or so).
Focus on the bolded main thing here which is the thing that matters. All women are a pain in the a$$ in different ways, that's why you have your buddies to hang out with.
Personally i enjoy a good banter, i fvck with them all the time so i love when i get a few jabs back.
 

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Men - get rid of the word dating. It has no purpose. It’s a term women use. Dating is like spinning in circles.

Men spin plates for sex, or commit to a top 2% woman.
instead of consulting the forum for every little quirk in behavior.
either like the girl, or dont. Spin her as plate or get serious.
or
be alone.

The level of weak minded males flooding into SS is appalling, where are the men?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Not in a bad way. Teasing, joking, light name calling - seemingly normal things, to me, in the early stages of a potential relationship and hooking up together.

What isnt normal is that lately it is almost CONSTANT. Sometimes text, sometimes in-person. Nothing ever insulting or rejecting to me, light goofy jabs though. Usually I turn it on her/make it sound like a compliment/exaggerate on it, or just flat out ignore it (best strategy for text).

What's your experience with this? I think sometimes it is a super weak sh*t test - which I bypass using one of the methods listed above.

Is this a red flag? I've always done more teasing of a girl than them of me - and I still do a bit with her, but hers are way more frequent...

We have sex regularly and she is frequently asking to hangout or come over (usually 2 times a week or so).

Thoughts? Anything I should maybe do?
Then it is you, not them. Next time this happens, go back in your mind and see what you did or when you saw them change their attitude towards you. That's what you need to fix. You can be nice and good to them without looking weak. My lady said something I didn't like a few days ago, I stopped her, said that wasn't right or nice and apologize. She did. YOU, the dude, sets the standard, not her.
 

Ohso-Phresh

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Men - get rid of the word dating. It has no purpose. It’s a term women use. Dating is like spinning in circles. Men spin plates for sex, or commit to a top 2% woman. Everything we do has a purpose.
Everything a women does is on purpose too.

Women spin dates for attention.

It’s your frame or hers. Lack of yours as a male defaults to hers as female.
 
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