"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Girl I used to have a thing has gotten in touch? Sign of interest?

Sgthaytham

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This is the second time she has done this. Once just before the summer, and once last night.

She sends me « I just heard you were in (place I go for the holidays) this summer, shame we didn’t see eachother »

I haven’t bothered answering her yet since I’m getting ready for work.

Seems like, at the very least, she’s trying to get my attention.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Rather than calibrating around what she "might" or might not want... decide what YOU want and try to get it.
 

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She's unlikely to take it to asking you out, if that's what you are waiting for.

It's enough for her to say hi. She even broaches the topic of seeing you... so take it from there.

If she ghosts when you try to escalate in any meaningful way, only to come back a week or month later, then you are just dealing with an attention bore.
I think I'm already dealing with one...


I replied to her initial message with: "I had a great time over there. How was yours?"

And she answers with "Complicated".

Apparently, she worked the whole 2 months and hasn't been paid.


I can't be bothered listening to her complain and rant on about her issues... it's not my place.
 

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I think I'm already dealing with one...


I replied to her initial message with: "I had a great time over there. How was yours?"

And she answers with "Complicated".

Apparently, she worked the whole 2 months and hasn't been paid.


I can't be bothered listening to her complain and rant on about her issues... it's not my place.
Only do if she deserves it..
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Only do if she deserves it..
Under these circumstances, should I respond to her or not?

I mean, she gets in touch out-of-the-blue, but then gives me a one-word response but later explains it's because she's mad she hasn't been paid?
 

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I think I'm already dealing with one...


I replied to her initial message with: "I had a great time over there. How was yours?"

And she answers with "Complicated".

Apparently, she worked the whole 2 months and hasn't been paid.


I can't be bothered listening to her complain and rant on about her issues... it's not my place.
Women talk, you listen, you both drink --> sex happens

If you have no interest in this woman, why even make a thread?
 

Sgthaytham

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Women talk, you listen, you both drink --> sex happens

If you have no interest in this woman, why even make a thread?
I do, I do.

I'm just finding it hard based on her responses.

She initiates, which is good, but then responses to my question with a one-worded answer?
 

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assssssskkkk ouuuuttttttttttttt. Don't be a covert dumb dumb. No MORE BEATING AROUND THE FVCKING BUSH
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ask her out and say it in terse terms. Like we're either going out or f**k off. Drop if she balks, you're not there to be some orbiter.
 
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