"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Girl I used to have a thing has gotten in touch? Sign of interest?

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This is the second time she has done this. Once just before the summer, and once last night.

She sends me « I just heard you were in (place I go for the holidays) this summer, shame we didn’t see eachother »

I haven’t bothered answering her yet since I’m getting ready for work.

Seems like, at the very least, she’s trying to get my attention.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Rather than calibrating around what she "might" or might not want... decide what YOU want and try to get it.
 
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deesade said:
She's unlikely to take it to asking you out, if that's what you are waiting for.

It's enough for her to say hi. She even broaches the topic of seeing you... so take it from there.

If she ghosts when you try to escalate in any meaningful way, only to come back a week or month later, then you are just dealing with an attention bore.
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I think I'm already dealing with one...


I replied to her initial message with: "I had a great time over there. How was yours?"

And she answers with "Complicated".

Apparently, she worked the whole 2 months and hasn't been paid.


I can't be bothered listening to her complain and rant on about her issues... it's not my place.
 
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Sgthaytham said:
I think I'm already dealing with one...


I replied to her initial message with: "I had a great time over there. How was yours?"

And she answers with "Complicated".

Apparently, she worked the whole 2 months and hasn't been paid.


I can't be bothered listening to her complain and rant on about her issues... it's not my place.
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Only do if she deserves it..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheGambino said:
Only do if she deserves it..
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Under these circumstances, should I respond to her or not?

I mean, she gets in touch out-of-the-blue, but then gives me a one-word response but later explains it's because she's mad she hasn't been paid?
 
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Sgthaytham said:
I think I'm already dealing with one...


I replied to her initial message with: "I had a great time over there. How was yours?"

And she answers with "Complicated".

Apparently, she worked the whole 2 months and hasn't been paid.


I can't be bothered listening to her complain and rant on about her issues... it's not my place.
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Women talk, you listen, you both drink --> sex happens

If you have no interest in this woman, why even make a thread?
 
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Roober said:
Women talk, you listen, you both drink --> sex happens

If you have no interest in this woman, why even make a thread?
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I do, I do.

I'm just finding it hard based on her responses.

She initiates, which is good, but then responses to my question with a one-worded answer?
 
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assssssskkkk ouuuuttttttttttttt. Don't be a covert dumb dumb. No MORE BEATING AROUND THE FVCKING BUSH
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Ask her out and say it in terse terms. Like we're either going out or f**k off. Drop if she balks, you're not there to be some orbiter.
 
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