You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
dj_jazzybrad said:Also, I dont know about you guys, but when I'm flirting with a girl, this happens a lot: she'll take my phone to add her number or take a picture of us or something and end up going through my text messages. Guaranteed. Every time a girl has my phone in her hands, or any dude's phone, they look at the text messages. They're just nosy, thats how they are. No real motive behind it. In my opinion, its nice to have some texts from some girls in there when theyre browsing awaythoughts?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Texting can be used to get your foot in the door but once you have hung out and made a relationship with the girl you shouldnt be using it much. Especially not to have a conversation with her.danny987 said:What is your opinion on texting? I did a search, and i did not see much discussion of texting in high school.