"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girl i like is texting me alot

danny987

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What is your opinion on texting? I did a search, and i did not see much discussion of texting in high school.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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jeffthechef

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well i hate...and i'm not just saying that because i can't text

but honestly...dont use it as anything more than a way to set up dates and push/pull

if you constantly text..you'll run out of things to talka bout when you go out together somewhere...she might get bored...you'll waste valuable time you could be spending on your studies or something you're passionate about

For planning only is best...try not to overdo it
 

(JJ)

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well... i'd say its on a case by case basis. for me, the main problem is that occasionally, my sense of humor doesn't come through over a text. sarcasm is a hard thing to convey through nothing more than text. however, this great girl that i've been in an ltr with for the last 11 months loves texting. she absolutely feels great about always being able to get ahold of me. i still don't respond right away, so im not TOO available, but it is basically a direct link to me at all times for her. not to mention, if the girl's way into you like mine is, it helps with jealousy and insecurity. i never really wonder what she's doing without me, cuz she and i are pretty much always in a conversation.
 

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As far as my opinion on texting, I usually text with the girls I'm not trying to get with (my close friends who are girls) a lot. It helps build up texting skills (hah) so you can give that witty one-liner when you set up your next date with a girl you do want to get with, and leave her wanting more. Also, I dont know about you guys, but when I'm flirting with a girl, this happens a lot: she'll take my phone to add her number or take a picture of us or something and end up going through my text messages. Guaranteed. Every time a girl has my phone in her hands, or any dude's phone, they look at the text messages. They're just nosy, thats how they are. No real motive behind it. In my opinion, its nice to have some texts from some girls in there when theyre browsing away ;) thoughts?
 

Five To One

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dj_jazzybrad said:
Also, I dont know about you guys, but when I'm flirting with a girl, this happens a lot: she'll take my phone to add her number or take a picture of us or something and end up going through my text messages. Guaranteed. Every time a girl has my phone in her hands, or any dude's phone, they look at the text messages. They're just nosy, thats how they are. No real motive behind it. In my opinion, its nice to have some texts from some girls in there when theyre browsing away ;) thoughts?

You shouldnt allow them to go through your phone. It just isnt right. Especially when they dont ask for permission, which they never do.
Your basicly telling them "oh ok sure you can go through my phone and everything personal in it, I dont care about you respecting me"

I do let girls add their own number but I keep an eye on them. Whenever a girl trys to turn away from me and look through my phone real quick I just ask for it back and then bust on them for being rude.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Five To One

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danny987 said:
What is your opinion on texting? I did a search, and i did not see much discussion of texting in high school.
Texting can be used to get your foot in the door but once you have hung out and made a relationship with the girl you shouldnt be using it much. Especially not to have a conversation with her.

Give her the gift of missing you.

And dont neglect talking on the phone or it will bite you in the a$$ sooner or later.
 

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Most DJ theory will tell you to only text to set up dates etc. However I find that it's just a part of normal highschool life. When A guy has something going with a girl they usually text each other. As long as you don't reply instantly to every message or constantly text her you should be fine. Just keep in mind that texting will get you no where if you can't get attraction in person.
 
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