Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
dj_jazzybrad said:Also, I dont know about you guys, but when I'm flirting with a girl, this happens a lot: she'll take my phone to add her number or take a picture of us or something and end up going through my text messages. Guaranteed. Every time a girl has my phone in her hands, or any dude's phone, they look at the text messages. They're just nosy, thats how they are. No real motive behind it. In my opinion, its nice to have some texts from some girls in there when theyre browsing awaythoughts?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Texting can be used to get your foot in the door but once you have hung out and made a relationship with the girl you shouldnt be using it much. Especially not to have a conversation with her.danny987 said:What is your opinion on texting? I did a search, and i did not see much discussion of texting in high school.