"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Girl holding off on giving me her number.
- Thread starter 00Kevin
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I don't really think women can be delineated as either wholesome or hot in this case. I think a better division is by women who know what they want and women who think that they know what they want.
I've found that women who truly know what they want in a guy AND trust themselves enough to be able to handle if they make a bad choice or not are usually more up front and less into either the game playing or the extreme take it slow type stuff.
You can usually recognize these type of women by their initial profile or correspondence they send you. Their character traits are usually confidence, straight forward (not necessarily brash) and they will tell you specifically what they liked about your profile or email. They will usually tell you straight away. Also, they don't usually play the "we'll trade a ton of emails" type games.
They are usually decent qualifiers and would want to move things along if they see that you could be the one. Don't be surprised if they skip the whole phone thing and ask to meet for coffee. I like that type of woman. Even if there isn't a romantic connection, she is usually a woman I could hang out with just because she's cool and confident.
btw bro I did read that she gave you her number before I put up my post. It still doesnt change the fact that shes highly likely to have no interest. But i hope I'm wrong
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Banned
For chicks? this is the understatement of the year.
Nailed it.
Whether she finally caved and reluctantly gave up her number to keep you chasing after the dangled carrot is irrelevant, has nothing to do with anything and youve totally missed the bigger picture.
Until you stick your d!ck in her puzzy getting defensive is futile and just sh!t talk.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dust 2 Dust
Master Don Juan
If your ignoring strategy worked then she knew she had to do something to keep you coming back for more so she gave you the number to appease you so you'll keep chasing the dangling carrot.