"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Girl gone from warm to cold to HOT

ShizamDaMan

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Aight, this has been on my noodle lately, and I thought I'd share my situation with you guys.

On Jan 10th I was hanging out with some friends for my birthday. Anyway my one friend brought one of her friends along, I'ma call her B. Anyway B is pretty good looking, so I decided to DJ her. We had a good time and the group eventually landed back at my place (B thought it would be a good idea to go, as did I :D).

So we get there and my friend starts talking about how B is in love (yes, love) with some other dude. I heard that, but thought it was just BS, my girlfriend trying to c0ckblock me with B. So I kept going at it until I finally got stopped when trying to go for making out. They left around 3AM and even though I got the number I just chalked it up as a loss, went to sleep.

The next day another chick asked me what I did that night. I jokingly commented "Yeah I almost got some play." Well she told all her girlfriends and before I knew it I had been bragging how I did stuff with B at my house (riiiiiight). The girl I was out with that brought B told me that B called her and said I deserved to be slapped. Definitely chalked this girl up as a lost cause.

Anyway I'm online for a bit last Friday and this girl sends me an instant message. Suddenly she's all flirty with me, calling me all sorts of good things and saying she was afraid that I would hate her. She said she had bronchitis on the 10th and that's why she was "steering clear" of everyone.

This is just a bit too weird for me. First she's warm and slowly giving into my my advances, then she's cold and f*ckin hates me, then she's hot and throwing all sorts of compliments my way? She's like a goddamn lightswitch!

Thoughts, comments? I'm gonna steer clear of this chick in the meantime, I got other girls I'd rather get with.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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UltimateScoundrel

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There could be a lot going on behind the scenes that you don't know about. When she said you deserved to be slapped her words were being taken out of context.

Imagine this:
B:I heard Shizam is bragging and saying we made out! He should be slapped!

Mutual Friend: No, he didn't say that to anyone, he just said (blah blah blah)

Bam. That's the way it went down, swear to god.
 

DJ Alejandro

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whoa!!!

B: he deserves to be slapped!
Common Friend: blah blah...
B: <thinking> id like to slap his ars!!!
:D

maybe that should get ya smiling. haha :p
 

ShizamDaMan

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Heh, that's a good one Alejandro.

Right now she's being put on the back burner, cause I honestly don't have time to figure out what's going on with her. Tooooo much other stuff to do.

About the only way she could get my attention is by asking me to the Sweetheart dance in 2 weeks, but that won't happen LOL :)
 

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DOn't leave her on the back burner!

Trust me, I had a hot girl interested in me as well, but because of her immaturity...I was hesitant to ask her out.

Well...Guess what? She's no longer interested...at least not as much as she use to be.

You will regret it! It's better you ask her out, it not working and you cut your losses...than to not try at all!

SuSHI.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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