"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Okay so this is my first post here :wave:

Right I've been friends with this girl for about a year and then about 3 months ago we hooked up on a night out...since then we have been hooking up whenever were out together and we text a lot...she shows lots of interest and almost always initiates contact.

In the last two weeks things have started jumping forward and she was in my house last week and I almost f***** her...but....no lie as I was about to penetrate my nose started gushing blood all over her!? I know fml...she found it very funny but I was pretty pissed...after that my parents arrived home so she had to go.

My problem is that she's after leaving town to go to a special boarding school for 3 weeks to learn a language and she's not allowed her phone so I can't stay in contact with her. Will she still be interested in 3 weeks time even though we'll have no contact.

Even though we were just hooking up I'm really starting to like her and thinking about her up there with other guys is making me jealous....should I just forget about her for the 3 weeks and live my life and then ask her out again when she comes back?
Thanks in advance any help is appreciated
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm in a similar situation... sort of, the difference is that your situation is more favorable in every way,

only time will tell for sure, but I don't think you have much to worry about, she won't forget you that quickly

although I do not think you should just sit around and wait for her, forget about her until she gets back, then resume
 
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Sunsleeve said:
should I just forget about her for the 3 weeks and live my life and then ask her out again when she comes back?
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That is what you should do because you want to avoid becoming desperate and needy over her, which is exactly what will happen if you constantly think about her and become "jealous" of her being with other boys.

Game other girls and when she comes back after those three weeks, shoot her a text (or call) and plan something together.
 
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If she wants to talk, she Will find a way to do it. Otherwise don't worry about it.
 
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Write her a letter EVERYDAY! :up: :crackup:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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