You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
while agree with you 100% this is some chick from POF who is sitting in his bed presumably on the first night they met each other... now I may be wrong with this and correct me if I am OP. but do you really think she is a keeper and would be so easily coerced into a random blokes bed to watch a movie? short answer NO. she was looking for the D.jlr12584 said:was this a first date? I personally think it is okay to hold off on a kiss until u get a second date. If she agrees to a second date, your chances of getting that kiss go way up without making yourself look like an ass.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
LOLOLOLOLOLOL ... most chicks these days would be like " oh well add it to the collection" haha sti's arent f**ken pokemon ok peopleskinnyguy said:well at least you didn't get herpes
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Jhcl4000 said:She laid in my bed next to me as we watched a movie on Netflix, but when I tried to kiss her she rejected it. Seriously...?
lol thats what women do in secret go to guys house for sex....lol thats life even married women do ituser name said:yeah i had a pof girl come to mine on the first 'date'. made the mistake of no booze AND i was working on call so was getting interrupted by calls all the time. a definitely passion killer. she had spent over two hours getting here so she must have been keen but to be honest all i could think about was 'who is this grown 30something woman who goes to a guy's house on the first date anyway?' i couldnt wait to be rid of her to be honest.