That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
while agree with you 100% this is some chick from POF who is sitting in his bed presumably on the first night they met each other... now I may be wrong with this and correct me if I am OP. but do you really think she is a keeper and would be so easily coerced into a random blokes bed to watch a movie? short answer NO. she was looking for the D.jlr12584 said:was this a first date? I personally think it is okay to hold off on a kiss until u get a second date. If she agrees to a second date, your chances of getting that kiss go way up without making yourself look like an ass.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
LOLOLOLOLOLOL ... most chicks these days would be like " oh well add it to the collection" haha sti's arent f**ken pokemon ok peopleskinnyguy said:well at least you didn't get herpes
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Jhcl4000 said:She laid in my bed next to me as we watched a movie on Netflix, but when I tried to kiss her she rejected it. Seriously...?
lol thats what women do in secret go to guys house for sex....lol thats life even married women do ituser name said:yeah i had a pof girl come to mine on the first 'date'. made the mistake of no booze AND i was working on call so was getting interrupted by calls all the time. a definitely passion killer. she had spent over two hours getting here so she must have been keen but to be honest all i could think about was 'who is this grown 30something woman who goes to a guy's house on the first date anyway?' i couldnt wait to be rid of her to be honest.