Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
while agree with you 100% this is some chick from POF who is sitting in his bed presumably on the first night they met each other... now I may be wrong with this and correct me if I am OP. but do you really think she is a keeper and would be so easily coerced into a random blokes bed to watch a movie? short answer NO. she was looking for the D.jlr12584 said:was this a first date? I personally think it is okay to hold off on a kiss until u get a second date. If she agrees to a second date, your chances of getting that kiss go way up without making yourself look like an ass.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
LOLOLOLOLOLOL ... most chicks these days would be like " oh well add it to the collection" haha sti's arent f**ken pokemon ok peopleskinnyguy said:well at least you didn't get herpes
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Jhcl4000 said:She laid in my bed next to me as we watched a movie on Netflix, but when I tried to kiss her she rejected it. Seriously...?
lol thats what women do in secret go to guys house for sex....lol thats life even married women do ituser name said:yeah i had a pof girl come to mine on the first 'date'. made the mistake of no booze AND i was working on call so was getting interrupted by calls all the time. a definitely passion killer. she had spent over two hours getting here so she must have been keen but to be honest all i could think about was 'who is this grown 30something woman who goes to a guy's house on the first date anyway?' i couldnt wait to be rid of her to be honest.