"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Girl from Net Flaked on me.. Should I ignore her when using AIM?

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Had plans to meet this girl from the internet this weekend for drinks, but when I called her to confirm she didn't answer and I left a message. She never called me back.

Now I'm on AIM and she's online too. I haven't messaged her at all. I was waiting to see if she messaged me but she hasn't, and it's been like half an hour. Should I say something?

Should I send her a message or just ignore her?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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TxCowboy

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Originally posted by Immaculate
Had plans to meet this girl from the internet this weekend for drinks, but when I called her to confirm she didn't answer and I left a message. She never called me back.

Now I'm on AIM and she's online too. I haven't messaged her at all. I was waiting to see if she messaged me but she hasn't, and it's been like half an hour. Should I say something?

Should I send her a message or just ignore her?
You never setup a date on the net.

I dont even know y u would waste ur time with the h0... get out and meet real women ... delete the b1tch off the list ... move on

If she never called back , neither should u ... simple as that
 

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Re: Re: Girl from Net Flaked on me.. Should I ignore her when using AIM?

Originally posted by TxCowboy
You never setup a date on the net.

I dont even know y u would waste ur time with the h0... get out and meet real women ... delete the b1tch off the list ... move on

If she never called back , neither should u ... simple as that

but she's sitting online on AIM right now, and I'm online too.. so I want to mess with her a little bit.. any advice?

BTW, we have talked several times on the phone, it isn't just a net thing.. but when we finally set up a date she flaked out.


I want to message her with something funny .. any advice? If she wasn't interested at all why didn't she delete my name... instead she's sitiin here online like she's waitin for m,e so say something.
 

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Re: Re: Girl from Net Flaked on me.. Should I ignore her when using AIM?

Originally posted by TxCowboy
You never setup a date on the net.

I dont even know y u would waste ur time with the h0... get out and meet real women ... delete the b1tch off the list ... move on

If she never called back , neither should u ... simple as that
You're right.. I'm about to delete her name off my list in 5 minutes... *****es and their games... her loss.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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sikpupy

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Hmmm, I never called a chick a douche bag...........let me know how it goes.
 

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Originally posted by sikpupy
Hmmm, I never called a chick a douche bag...........let me know how it goes.
Really? I call women douchebags all the time.
 

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Originally posted by Immaculate
Had plans to meet this girl from the internet this weekend for drinks, but when I called her to confirm she didn't answer and I left a message. She never called me back.

Now I'm on AIM and she's online too. I haven't messaged her at all. I was waiting to see if she messaged me but she hasn't, and it's been like half an hour. Should I say something?

Should I send her a message or just ignore her?
You are a busy guy with an interesting and dynamic social life. You do not have time for flakes.

Accordingly, when she gets (drunk/lonely/horny/sad/strung out/hormonal) and IMs you looking for attention your reply will be:

"Look, I don't have time for people who flake out. Life is too short for that nonsense. I'm headed to a party at 1 South Jefferys Street at 8:30. You can meet me there, or not. Ciao!"

Don't answer any other IMs from her.

Oh, and it's up to you if there's really a party or not and if 1 South Jefferys is a crack house or a swank hotel.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by Dust 2 Dust
Ask yourself this- Would Johnny Depp use instant messenger??????????
:crackup: As long as you're joking, that is. I wish they'd stop putting those damned articles on the homepage. They make me sick every time I see them. Like I give a damn if Bruce Willis uses online dating services . . .
 

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Re: Re: Girl from Net Flaked on me.. Should I ignore her when using AIM?

Originally posted by TxCowboy
You never setup a date on the net.

I dont even know y u would waste ur time with the h0... get out and meet real women ... delete the b1tch off the list ... move on

If she never called back , neither should u ... simple as that

I recently pulled a women of the web. We've been out a couple of times. So far she is the most fun I have ever had with a chick and I've tried most walks of life. Second she isn't bad looking. I never set the date up online though. We exchanged numbers after an hour online and I set it up a couple of days later.

I heard a lot about bad luck storys with the net but if you know what your doing it can work
 
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