This girl who I haven't talked to since elementary school wrote on my facebook wall "remember when we used to cheer for you when you and ____ played basketball?".....This seems so random I don't know how to respond. In elementary, school we both liked eachother lol....How should I respond, besides saying I remember and such.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Girl from elementary school? lol
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
AtillaTheHun
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I'd respond "Where you at? We need to catch up some time."
ARrocket
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I'd agree with that, just don't waste too much time messaging back and forth. Get the number in the next couple of messages, and then go "catch up"AtillaTheHun said:
