Girl didn't reply?

[Soflobro#3]

Sazc for a female your a really good contribution

Rostie*

 

[niceguytoalphamale]

I wouldn't wait a couple of days if she showed very high interests. Go for the kill now and strike while the iron is hot.


"Hey stranger. Let's grab that coffee. What's your availability?"

Ok ok I did what you said. I said coffee Monday if your available. She said if she can get her daughter's looked after. I said ok let me know. She said will do. With a smiley face. I'm pulling back now.

 

[Billtx49]

Ok ok I did what you said. I said coffee Monday if you’re available.

I said ok let me know.

Exactly, what is it in those replies that does Not sound submissive to you ?

 

[niceguytoalphamale]

Exactly what is it in those replies that does Not sound submissive to you ?

Meh I don't really care about the outcome if it happens it does if it doesn't I'll just hit up a new one.

 

[niceguytoalphamale]

Exactly what is it in those replies that does Not sound submissive to you ?

I'm not messaging again until I get a response I think I handled it pretty well to be honest.

 

[sazc]

I'm not messaging again until I get a response I think I handled it pretty well to be honest.

She said she would get back to you, so there is no reason for you to message. She took responsibility for being the next one to get into contact.

I, personally, feel that a lot of men drop the ball with online dating. It occurs to me that, when communication goes stale, it could very well be that she got tired of the back and forth and was hoping to be invited out. Instead the guy sees it as she's not interested.

in most cases, unless there is unsavory communication, I see no harm in reaching out to ask if they are interested in getting together. The worst they can do is say no, and it's a stranger on the internet so it should have no effect on anyone's ego.

but those are just my thoughts, and those are the thoughts coming from a woman who fails to understand why decent or even good communication goes stale with no follow-up.

 

[Glassguy]

Ok ok I did what you said. I said coffee Monday if your available. She said if she can get her daughter's looked after. I said ok let me know. She said will do. With a smiley face. I'm pulling back now.

You sort of did what I said. I dont offer a day........ever........because I dont want the same thing to happen to me as it did to you.


Think about this for a second. You ask "what is your availability?". She has to either come back with a specific day that she is free or she has to bail out due to lower interest. It makes things simple.

If you say "Lets get together Monday evening" and she is not free, there is a chance that she will tell you just what this chick did and then you are standing there wondering what to do.

You could always say "well I am free Thursday too" and she could say that she is busy then as well. She will then deplete you down to offering your entire schedule and her thinking "this dude has no life if he is always available" and she will lose interest and bounce.

Always ask them when they are available and eliminate offering your entire schedule on a platter for some chick. It also makes them commit to the time and date since they are the one offering it.

 

[sazc]

The other school of thought is to test their interest by offering a day and, if they can't make that day, observing of they counter offer with a day, demonstrating that they have interest

I like @Glassguy approach because it puts the ball squarely in their Court, the next interaction you should have is them giving you a specific day.

 

[Glassguy]

The other school of thought is to test their interest by offering a day and, if they can't make that day, observing of they counter offer with a day, demonstrating that they have interest

I like @Glassguy approach because it puts the ball squarely in their Court, the next interaction you should have is them giving you a specific day.

Not only do I have much better success with asking them their availability, but it makes things so much easier. The only back and forth is if I am not free on the day they suggest and then I counter offer.

It just seems as though its much less pressure to ask their availability. On occasion I will have a chick that says "Let me check my schedule and I will let you know". At that point I just say "hear from you soon" and leave it at that. She can either let me know soon or I dont worry about it.

I will never go back to offering a specific day again. It can turn into too much work and too much pressure.

It also puts them on the spot and if they can make a decision, its low interest and I dont worry about messaging her anymore. Its a very simple process.

 

[MrJack]

Was talking to a hb 7 or 8 today. Anyways she was super keen sending 3 messages to my 1 message. I took time to reply of course lol. And I mentioned catching up for a coffee she likes that idea. Then I said ok we will meet soon. Bam no reply.. what the he'll happened here? Btw shes been online on Facebook.

You said “We will meet soon”

What you should’ve said is “Ok let’s go to xxx on xxx-day at xxx time”

 

[dude99]

Ok so next time we speak I say coffee on xyx etc: it's almost like I can hook them then bang I freeze up and get scared lol

Just say "hey lets go for a coffee thursday evening. Pick you up at 6."
Its not vague. Its direct and to the point. Her reaction will tell you everything you need to know.
She will either say yes or no. Either way dont sweat the answer.

 

[Tilex]

Did you ever ask for her phone number?
If you didn't then you still need to make the next move, because the ball is still in your court.

 

[niceguytoalphamale]

Went to her house. Walked in told her to get to the bedroom banged her.. now wifed her lol

 

[Murk]

yawn