drmeathead
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so i told her to call a cab and went to bed? Thoughts?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Girl Didnt Put Out
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
HalfAddict
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well that was detailed
ARrocket
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umm....depends on the context of the situation. Have you known her for awhile? Is this a first date? Did you find her on the street 2 hours before??
drmeathead
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the first two times i took her home she put out. this time she "didnt want to". she asked me to stop so i did. she put out the first two times i took her home from the bar so i figured we all knew what the score was when i took her home this time. so she "didnt want to" so i let her sleep on the couch. she still "didnt want to" so i told her i "didnt want to" give her a ride home and she should call a cab. i went back in my room till she was gone.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Ever consider that her Aunt Flo was visiting?
drmeathead
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yeah i did. i also considered that my uncle didnt want to drive her ass around was in town. hahaha
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You could have always covered up the upholstery with a towel y'know. 
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
drmeathead
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maybe she was maybe she wasnt. either was she was under no obligations to do anything. neither was i.
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Hop in the shower, and the blood stops flowin'....Good times says my crimson wings...