drmeathead
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so i told her to call a cab and went to bed? Thoughts?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Girl Didnt Put Out
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
HalfAddict
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well that was detailed
ARrocket
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umm....depends on the context of the situation. Have you known her for awhile? Is this a first date? Did you find her on the street 2 hours before??
drmeathead
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the first two times i took her home she put out. this time she "didnt want to". she asked me to stop so i did. she put out the first two times i took her home from the bar so i figured we all knew what the score was when i took her home this time. so she "didnt want to" so i let her sleep on the couch. she still "didnt want to" so i told her i "didnt want to" give her a ride home and she should call a cab. i went back in my room till she was gone.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Ever consider that her Aunt Flo was visiting?
drmeathead
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yeah i did. i also considered that my uncle didnt want to drive her ass around was in town. hahaha
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You could have always covered up the upholstery with a towel y'know. 
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
drmeathead
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maybe she was maybe she wasnt. either was she was under no obligations to do anything. neither was i.
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Hop in the shower, and the blood stops flowin'....Good times says my crimson wings...