"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl describes me as 'chatty'

lebRambo

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i'm always getting girls saying i'm 'chatty', but is this a good thing or a bad thing? what do you guys think?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If it's what you do naturally, then so be it. I wouldn't worry about what other girls or even what other guys think.
 

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This is bad

This means that you talk alot ABOUT THINGS THEY DON'T WANT TO HEAR.

Girls LOVE to talk. That is their passion. It's a very accurate stereotype in most cases that teenage girls spend more time on the phone than the rest of the household combined.

Talking a lot is not the issue. Being BORING to them is the issue.

I myself can talk for HOURS. But I have NEVER been called chatty, in fact girls beg me to stay on the phone with them.

The secret is to keep the topic of conversation RELEVANT to THEM. Think GOSSIP. Talk about THEM (especially their feelings). Talk about juicy controversial gender-wars stuff.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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cheers guys. although, just to clarify, my ex said that the reason why she was attracted to me most of all in the beginning was my conversational skills. So, I don't think its a bad thing all the time.
 

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Re: This is bad

Originally posted by Sweetcheeks
This means that you talk alot ABOUT THINGS THEY DON'T WANT TO HEAR.

Girls LOVE to talk. That is their passion. It's a very accurate stereotype in most cases that teenage girls spend more time on the phone than the rest of the household combined.

Talking a lot is not the issue. Being BORING to them is the issue.

I myself can talk for HOURS. But I have NEVER been called chatty, in fact girls beg me to stay on the phone with them.

The secret is to keep the topic of conversation RELEVANT to THEM. Think GOSSIP. Talk about THEM (especially their feelings). Talk about juicy controversial gender-wars stuff.
Wow, this is about as accurate as I've ever seen. Either that, or you've gone out with the same women as I have, lol.
 

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Originally posted by lebRambo
cheers guys. although, just to clarify, my ex said that the reason why she was attracted to me most of all in the beginning was my conversational skills. So, I don't think its a bad thing all the time.
Conversation skills = talking to her about her and things that interest her.
 

lebRambo

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haha. well, i tend to talk about sex and gossip with a lot of women. maybe its not such a bad thing.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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