I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Wow, this is about as accurate as I've ever seen. Either that, or you've gone out with the same women as I have, lol.Originally posted by Sweetcheeks
This means that you talk alot ABOUT THINGS THEY DON'T WANT TO HEAR.
Girls LOVE to talk. That is their passion. It's a very accurate stereotype in most cases that teenage girls spend more time on the phone than the rest of the household combined.
Talking a lot is not the issue. Being BORING to them is the issue.
I myself can talk for HOURS. But I have NEVER been called chatty, in fact girls beg me to stay on the phone with them.
The secret is to keep the topic of conversation RELEVANT to THEM. Think GOSSIP. Talk about THEM (especially their feelings). Talk about juicy controversial gender-wars stuff.
Conversation skills = talking to her about her and things that interest her.Originally posted by lebRambo
cheers guys. although, just to clarify, my ex said that the reason why she was attracted to me most of all in the beginning was my conversational skills. So, I don't think its a bad thing all the time.
Yes like sex shoes and moneyOriginally posted by darth yoda
Conversation skills = talking to her about her and things that interest her.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.