"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Girl calls and opens up with a bunch of complaints

chancer

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So she calls and starts complaining about all this bull****, so i just sit the phone down and come back a min later. I was a bit of an ass not caring about any of what she said. After all, she called me on a friday night. And then i turn it around so that we start talking about sex. Which seemed good. But sometimes i get the feeling that she's not all that interested. But when I don't call for a while, she always calls me. We've gone out twice and I don't know if she's really interested or if she's just teasing. When I said she should comeover to my house she said that it was too soon.

Would you even deal with a girl who phones you up and complains about everything? if so how would you deal with it?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sounds like you're doing a decent job with her, but make sure to spin other plates
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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chancer said:
...Would you even deal with a girl who phones you up and complains about everything? if so how would you deal with it?
What exactly are you gaining from being her emotional tampon? Not what you may gain in the future, but right now.
 

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first of all, if she keeps calling, I don't pick up. I don't talk on the phpne.. I hate the damn phone. if you want to talk to me so bad come over my damn house. the phone isn't a toy it's not an enteratainment system. Men have PS3's and Xbox's, women have NOkias and motorolas
 

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ok, so for sure. I'm not gonna chat her up on the phone anymore. (i don't chat up the other girls on the phone though...) I'm just gonna plan to do something and see what's good.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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first of all, if she keeps calling, I don't pick up.

yeah, that's a good point...sorry I forgot the mention that. Only use phones to set up physical encounters. Same with AIM, for the most part.
 

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Tell her you'll buy her ice cream and when you meet her there get her a kidney punch sundae.
 

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Obsidians tip = the best from this thread - I suggest you use it.
The phone should NEVER be used to have a conversation, save conversation for when you see her.. if you are on the phone with her, you are missing all the kino action. ;)
 

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isn't that what I said?

Damn I haven't used AIM in so long I had to think for a second what AIM ment.
 

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chancer said:
So she calls and starts complaining about all this bull****, so i just sit the phone down and come back a min later. I was a bit of an ass not caring about any of what she said. After all, she called me on a friday night. And then i turn it around so that we start talking about sex. Which seemed good. But sometimes i get the feeling that she's not all that interested. But when I don't call for a while, she always calls me. We've gone out twice and I don't know if she's really interested or if she's just teasing. When I said she should comeover to my house she said that it was too soon.

Would you even deal with a girl who phones you up and complains about everything? if so how would you deal with it?
Sounds like she's using you as the "gay friend".
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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