"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Girl called me Ted Bundy at the bar
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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OP's retort was quite simply witty and fresh. Not canned, not lame, and not p!ssy or emotional.
Good job OP, but it was kind of creepy that you smelled her hair. Unless that was part of the joke.
I also think that Jariel is giving awesome advice here. It IS creepy to randomly and excessively just approach, approach, approach. You may snag one here and there but I doubt you'll be catching anything of value. I don't know if that is what the OP was doing in this case, he may have just walked into a Queen B's lair, but his response was awesome in any case.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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I had heard the name Ted Bundy before but couldn't tell you much about him until I googled him after reading this thread. I mean who the fvck keeps up with serial killers from the 70's? either she was old as fvck or she spends too much time googling psycho's. maybe she has a thing for those types. I was 8 years old when he got fried, so yeah can't say I know much about him or really gave a sh!t about him. i surely didn't know he drove a VW bug for christ sakes. I guess I'm weird for keeping up with news TODAY and not giving a piss about what happened in the 70's/early 80's.Aaron B said:
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That was my other thought. Your typical bar girl is too young to even know who Ted Bundy was. Hell, most are too young to know who Al Bundy was LOL.Robert28 said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.