"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girl called me a ***** because I wouldn't ask her out..

Grimple

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Heh, so there is this girl that likes me. I kind of like her too, I guess. We flirt A LOT, in one of my periods. And sometimes during lunch etc.. like holding hands, and massively cuddling etc.. everyone thinks we're going out. But we're not.. she brings it up almost like everyday. The only thing is, I don't feel like having a gf right now.. I haven't told her this. I didn't want to piss her off, or to jepordize anything, so I just kind of ignore it. But today, she called me a *****, and was giving me hints like crazy. And ahg, now I'm just confused about it all. At first I wanted to go out with her, but then I changed my mind. Now I kinda do, but I'm not sure. All I want right now is some fun, I don't think I need a relationship.. but idk. Just the fact she called me a ***** today irratates me. It got to me.

Now, even if I did ask her out... i would still look like a *****. Because then it would look like I waited so long to muster up the balls.. and also the fact that tomorrow is our last day at school.. hehehe, what a ***** thing to do is ask someone out before break. I guess most would say "better late, than never" but then again, I'm not even sure. and this girl is pressuring me like crazy

what would a dj do?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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WC2

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Trust me, if you don't want a relationship now, you're not going to want it any more when you get into it. If your mind is telling you that you want to be single, then it's obviously not the right girl.

Move on, stay in touch with the girl, but open up other options
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Phyzzle

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The difference being, don't ask her to be your girlfriend. Just say, there's this cafe/restaurant/park/place that she'd like, and she should go along with you this Thursday or something. Don't mention anything about relationships, let her decide all that.
 

Thomas94305

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Hey.. if you ask her out, do it because YOU want to, not because SHE wants you to. If YOU don't want to ask her out, without embarassment, say "no thanks". You don't owe her an explanation of why.
 
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