"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Girl called me a ***** because I wouldn't ask her out..

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Heh, so there is this girl that likes me. I kind of like her too, I guess. We flirt A LOT, in one of my periods. And sometimes during lunch etc.. like holding hands, and massively cuddling etc.. everyone thinks we're going out. But we're not.. she brings it up almost like everyday. The only thing is, I don't feel like having a gf right now.. I haven't told her this. I didn't want to piss her off, or to jepordize anything, so I just kind of ignore it. But today, she called me a *****, and was giving me hints like crazy. And ahg, now I'm just confused about it all. At first I wanted to go out with her, but then I changed my mind. Now I kinda do, but I'm not sure. All I want right now is some fun, I don't think I need a relationship.. but idk. Just the fact she called me a ***** today irratates me. It got to me.

Now, even if I did ask her out... i would still look like a *****. Because then it would look like I waited so long to muster up the balls.. and also the fact that tomorrow is our last day at school.. hehehe, what a ***** thing to do is ask someone out before break. I guess most would say "better late, than never" but then again, I'm not even sure. and this girl is pressuring me like crazy

what would a dj do?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Trust me, if you don't want a relationship now, you're not going to want it any more when you get into it. If your mind is telling you that you want to be single, then it's obviously not the right girl.

Move on, stay in touch with the girl, but open up other options
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The difference being, don't ask her to be your girlfriend. Just say, there's this cafe/restaurant/park/place that she'd like, and she should go along with you this Thursday or something. Don't mention anything about relationships, let her decide all that.
 
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Hey.. if you ask her out, do it because YOU want to, not because SHE wants you to. If YOU don't want to ask her out, without embarassment, say "no thanks". You don't owe her an explanation of why.
 
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