"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl Blows Me Out But Keeps Reapproaching Me

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So, I opened this hot Latina spinner a couple weekends ago.

It probably wasn't the most polite way of approaching her: I said "why do you come to this bar all the time?" I was really ****ing drunk and my filter was turned completely off--and it's usually not on even when I'm sober.

She didn't take it very well, and shouted "No!" So I stopped talking to her lol.

But of course, she is a regular at this particular place and I see her again last night, and she keeps "bumping into me" coincidentally. At the bar, near the restroom, at closing.

She's usually part of a mixed group: nice looking people, not thuggish.

I am really reluctant to reapproach her after this 'harsh' blowout but I guess I have to get back into the breach since she keeps reapproaching me.

The point is, the window of opportunity varies from one situation to the next. A girl may not be 'ready' the first time, but may be open the next or third time. You never know. Stay open to possibilities.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Or maybe she is waiting for you to hit on her so she can say “No” again and tell her friends that this dude is always hitting on me and I keep rejecting him, makes the ego feel good. I would let her approach you, ignore and hit on other bishes preferably hotter ones. She will come crawling.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I don't claim to fvck every single girl I approach or every single girl who approaches me though. That's just naive and unrealistic.
 
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