"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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piday314

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Have you ever had a girl show extremely strong IOI, but you don't reciprocate, and she reacts by using other men to try and make you blatantly jealous?

Of course, I know she still wants me first and foremost. My instinct is to just not react. I think it's semi-flattering and stupidly childish.

But how have you reacted to situations like this in the past to ultimately get what you wanted from the lady?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Simply do not react. You still want to make sure you make a move in the end (if you are in fact interested)
 

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Well I'm doing the same thing to a girl right now.

There's this chick at work who I really like (let's call her Jessica), but she made it clear that she only wants to be "friends". Today I'm going to bring a gift wrapped present to this other girl at work who I'm not interested in. I can't wait to see Jessica's face when I give that girl the present. She's going to be eating my shyt by the end of the day. Women are so simple minded.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Indifference brother. Act like it's no big deal. Then she'll come a runnin for you dripping wet.

Works most every time.
 

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skinnyguy said:
Well I'm doing the same thing to a girl right now.

There's this chick at work who I really like (let's call her Jessica), but she made it clear that she only wants to be "friends". Today I'm going to bring a gift wrapped present to this other girl at work who I'm not interested in. I can't wait to see Jessica's face when I give that girl the present. She's going to be eating my shyt by the end of the day. Women are so simple minded.
You don't make women wet by acting like one. :crackup: :crackup:

Right now you sound like a 15-year-old girl with too much time on her hands. Come on dude. Spin plates and move on with life. Don't pedestalize women by playing power games with them. There is no game.. YOU are a man and she is a woman. Either she will follow your lead OR you will find someone who will. Simple as that.

Packers2010 said:
if you stop reacting, then she will stop playing this game
:up: :up:

You win 100% of head games by not lowering yourself enough to play them. Games are for women and kids. Live your life, spin plates and be a dominant happy man. If woman try to manipulate you.. laugh at them and keep doing your thing. If they want your d!ck they'll jump on it sooner or later. :yes:
 

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This has happened to me before. A girl that I think was interested in me flirted with her ex in front of me at a party. We are all in the same social circle and it was a party of about 60 people.

I promptly walked over to a girl I never met and introduced myself, flirted for a while, and got her number.

The first girl found out about it and flipped out. She never tried that again. It didn't work out though she was crazy.
 

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A symptom of BPD, although not a definite indicator in your case. Keep it in ind.
 

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piday314 said:
Have you ever had a girl show extremely strong IOI, but you don't reciprocate, and she reacts by using other men to try and make you blatantly jealous?

Of course, I know she still wants me first and foremost. My instinct is to just not react. I think it's semi-flattering and stupidly childish.

But how have you reacted to situations like this in the past to ultimately get what you wanted from the lady?
I'm confused here. What exactly is it that you want from this girl?

If you want sex or a relationship, she's already interested why don't you turn on the charm and start reciprocating?
If you want her to just go away, then ignore her completely.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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