"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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piday314

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Have you ever had a girl show extremely strong IOI, but you don't reciprocate, and she reacts by using other men to try and make you blatantly jealous?

Of course, I know she still wants me first and foremost. My instinct is to just not react. I think it's semi-flattering and stupidly childish.

But how have you reacted to situations like this in the past to ultimately get what you wanted from the lady?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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JLW

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Simply do not react. You still want to make sure you make a move in the end (if you are in fact interested)
 

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Well I'm doing the same thing to a girl right now.

There's this chick at work who I really like (let's call her Jessica), but she made it clear that she only wants to be "friends". Today I'm going to bring a gift wrapped present to this other girl at work who I'm not interested in. I can't wait to see Jessica's face when I give that girl the present. She's going to be eating my shyt by the end of the day. Women are so simple minded.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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5string

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Indifference brother. Act like it's no big deal. Then she'll come a runnin for you dripping wet.

Works most every time.
 

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skinnyguy said:
Well I'm doing the same thing to a girl right now.

There's this chick at work who I really like (let's call her Jessica), but she made it clear that she only wants to be "friends". Today I'm going to bring a gift wrapped present to this other girl at work who I'm not interested in. I can't wait to see Jessica's face when I give that girl the present. She's going to be eating my shyt by the end of the day. Women are so simple minded.
You don't make women wet by acting like one. :crackup: :crackup:

Right now you sound like a 15-year-old girl with too much time on her hands. Come on dude. Spin plates and move on with life. Don't pedestalize women by playing power games with them. There is no game.. YOU are a man and she is a woman. Either she will follow your lead OR you will find someone who will. Simple as that.

Packers2010 said:
if you stop reacting, then she will stop playing this game
:up: :up:

You win 100% of head games by not lowering yourself enough to play them. Games are for women and kids. Live your life, spin plates and be a dominant happy man. If woman try to manipulate you.. laugh at them and keep doing your thing. If they want your d!ck they'll jump on it sooner or later. :yes:
 

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This has happened to me before. A girl that I think was interested in me flirted with her ex in front of me at a party. We are all in the same social circle and it was a party of about 60 people.

I promptly walked over to a girl I never met and introduced myself, flirted for a while, and got her number.

The first girl found out about it and flipped out. She never tried that again. It didn't work out though she was crazy.
 

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A symptom of BPD, although not a definite indicator in your case. Keep it in ind.
 

Cremasta

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piday314 said:
Have you ever had a girl show extremely strong IOI, but you don't reciprocate, and she reacts by using other men to try and make you blatantly jealous?

Of course, I know she still wants me first and foremost. My instinct is to just not react. I think it's semi-flattering and stupidly childish.

But how have you reacted to situations like this in the past to ultimately get what you wanted from the lady?
I'm confused here. What exactly is it that you want from this girl?

If you want sex or a relationship, she's already interested why don't you turn on the charm and start reciprocating?
If you want her to just go away, then ignore her completely.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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