"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Girl at work. missed chance?

Moneytalks

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I broke up with my girlfriend last night. Remember that.

I work at a top-class restaurant as a waiter. Yesterday was my 2nd shift.

I've been doing the gash jobs like cleaning and what not and I was told to fill up the water heater. I used a hosepipe :cool:.

Anyway, it takes about 7 minutes and I was just thinking about my morning run for today so not really paying attention to a lot around me. As I was filling the tank, the youngest, female chef (trainee, I think. She looks about 18) walked past and said "my, what a big pipe you've got!". Due to being in my own little world all I said was "Yeah" and then realised what she said. :down:

Later on, the sous chef kept saying "i think you've go an admirer down there :up: "

Another chef shouted "He's got a girlfriend!". :cry:

Anyway, is there a way to possibly recover from that? :crazy:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Analyzeit

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Yeah just flirt it'll come up and conversation and you can say u dont have a gf and get a number lol don't know what ya promblem is lol I mean hell you gotta let old gfs go ukno even thou thats not a problem i think
 

Moneytalks

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It's not the problem. I just don't really know a lot about the girl...Mainly.
 

MisterMcGee

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Moneytalks said:
It's not the problem. I just don't really know a lot about the girl...Mainly.
Then become friends with her. Talk to her and go out with her friends.

:nono:
 

Moneytalks

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MisterMcGee said:
Then become friends with her. Talk to her and go out with her friends.

:nono:
I know it seems ridiculous, but I was with my girlfriend for over a year. Totally out of the game!

Also, because of the type of restaurant it is, many of the chefs travel 2+ hours to get to work. So "going out with her friends" might not be a possibility :down:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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