"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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lxr

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First this girl whom I had friend zoned because she had been dating the same guy for ~1.5 years asked me to to prom with her. I agreed, thinking that it would be a more casual prom date.

Recently she told me another couple (dating) in our prom group was going to hang out this weekend (movie or bowling) and that they invited us.

I now understand that she is probably in to me romantically, but I'm not familiar with a girl asking me out.....

So what does the DJ do? Proceed normally, or be harder to get?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Spyder213

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Just hang out with her if you like her.. I dont see the point of playing hard to get now as shes already attracted to you enough to ask you out...
 

Analyzeit

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Just go.

Don't make yourself look desperate and way to eager to go but go.
 

lxr

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K, she asked me to take her to a panera becuase she said it would be really conveniant or something, so I did. It was fun and normal.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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lxr

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Well, we ate dinner. She talked about 70% so I would say I did welll there. It was mostly interesting stuff and she seemed interested and happy. In terms of my growth, it was good date. I am becoming more confident. About her specifically, well , I'm not that into her really so i might break it off soon.
 

lxr

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Wow she is super into me i guess... Within this weekend she asked me to go bowling and to go to church with her. I suppose ill tell her I'd rather be friends and just have a good time at prom?
 

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why didn't you have a prom date before?
and if ur planning to break up

U:lets have seks
if she says no there u go :D
 

lxr

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she asked me about really early - like 1.5 months before prom. I wasn't thinking about it much (though i did have some girls i was thinking about)
 

lxr

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btw *slightly off topic*
is it weird if i want to wait till... later... to lose my virginity? Am i gonna lose a lot of girls?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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HariPoter13

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Dont be afraid, its not a big deal. You may regret not doing so (not taking action) later in life. Just go with the flow and if it happens great! If not still great because you wont have any regrets.

Just go out there, have some fun and dont be afraid of new experiences. :)
 

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Ive always been a firm believer of poon-tang, poon-tang sitting on a fence man who dont take it aint got no sence. :p haha jk man, But no i totally agree with HariPoter13.
 

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I waited to have sex, with someone that was my girlfriend that was also a virgin, what did i learn? Sex is just sex. And once you get some its not special at all. I mean ya it was great to be with someone on the same level as me and do it together but honestly if you have a girl all hot and heavy pull the trigger...BOOM!
 
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