"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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lxr

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First this girl whom I had friend zoned because she had been dating the same guy for ~1.5 years asked me to to prom with her. I agreed, thinking that it would be a more casual prom date.

Recently she told me another couple (dating) in our prom group was going to hang out this weekend (movie or bowling) and that they invited us.

I now understand that she is probably in to me romantically, but I'm not familiar with a girl asking me out.....

So what does the DJ do? Proceed normally, or be harder to get?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Spyder213

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Just hang out with her if you like her.. I dont see the point of playing hard to get now as shes already attracted to you enough to ask you out...
 

Analyzeit

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Just go.

Don't make yourself look desperate and way to eager to go but go.
 

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K, she asked me to take her to a panera becuase she said it would be really conveniant or something, so I did. It was fun and normal.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well, we ate dinner. She talked about 70% so I would say I did welll there. It was mostly interesting stuff and she seemed interested and happy. In terms of my growth, it was good date. I am becoming more confident. About her specifically, well , I'm not that into her really so i might break it off soon.
 

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Wow she is super into me i guess... Within this weekend she asked me to go bowling and to go to church with her. I suppose ill tell her I'd rather be friends and just have a good time at prom?
 

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why didn't you have a prom date before?
and if ur planning to break up

U:lets have seks
if she says no there u go :D
 

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she asked me about really early - like 1.5 months before prom. I wasn't thinking about it much (though i did have some girls i was thinking about)
 

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btw *slightly off topic*
is it weird if i want to wait till... later... to lose my virginity? Am i gonna lose a lot of girls?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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HariPoter13

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Dont be afraid, its not a big deal. You may regret not doing so (not taking action) later in life. Just go with the flow and if it happens great! If not still great because you wont have any regrets.

Just go out there, have some fun and dont be afraid of new experiences. :)
 

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Ive always been a firm believer of poon-tang, poon-tang sitting on a fence man who dont take it aint got no sence. :p haha jk man, But no i totally agree with HariPoter13.
 

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I waited to have sex, with someone that was my girlfriend that was also a virgin, what did i learn? Sex is just sex. And once you get some its not special at all. I mean ya it was great to be with someone on the same level as me and do it together but honestly if you have a girl all hot and heavy pull the trigger...BOOM!
 
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