"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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lxr

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First this girl whom I had friend zoned because she had been dating the same guy for ~1.5 years asked me to to prom with her. I agreed, thinking that it would be a more casual prom date.

Recently she told me another couple (dating) in our prom group was going to hang out this weekend (movie or bowling) and that they invited us.

I now understand that she is probably in to me romantically, but I'm not familiar with a girl asking me out.....

So what does the DJ do? Proceed normally, or be harder to get?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Spyder213

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Just hang out with her if you like her.. I dont see the point of playing hard to get now as shes already attracted to you enough to ask you out...
 

Analyzeit

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Just go.

Don't make yourself look desperate and way to eager to go but go.
 

lxr

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K, she asked me to take her to a panera becuase she said it would be really conveniant or something, so I did. It was fun and normal.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lxr

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Well, we ate dinner. She talked about 70% so I would say I did welll there. It was mostly interesting stuff and she seemed interested and happy. In terms of my growth, it was good date. I am becoming more confident. About her specifically, well , I'm not that into her really so i might break it off soon.
 

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Wow she is super into me i guess... Within this weekend she asked me to go bowling and to go to church with her. I suppose ill tell her I'd rather be friends and just have a good time at prom?
 

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why didn't you have a prom date before?
and if ur planning to break up

U:lets have seks
if she says no there u go :D
 

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she asked me about really early - like 1.5 months before prom. I wasn't thinking about it much (though i did have some girls i was thinking about)
 

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btw *slightly off topic*
is it weird if i want to wait till... later... to lose my virginity? Am i gonna lose a lot of girls?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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HariPoter13

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Dont be afraid, its not a big deal. You may regret not doing so (not taking action) later in life. Just go with the flow and if it happens great! If not still great because you wont have any regrets.

Just go out there, have some fun and dont be afraid of new experiences. :)
 

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Ive always been a firm believer of poon-tang, poon-tang sitting on a fence man who dont take it aint got no sence. :p haha jk man, But no i totally agree with HariPoter13.
 

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I waited to have sex, with someone that was my girlfriend that was also a virgin, what did i learn? Sex is just sex. And once you get some its not special at all. I mean ya it was great to be with someone on the same level as me and do it together but honestly if you have a girl all hot and heavy pull the trigger...BOOM!
 
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