"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girl are blinking her eyes often? and trouble holding eye contact with you?

kingman

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Girl are blinking her eyes often?
And she has trouble holding eye contact with you?

What does that mean?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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magickarl

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Hard telling without other descriptions of body language.

She could be shy. She may not be interested at all. She may need eye-drops.

Pay attention to other details:

- Is her body "pointed" towards yours?
- Are her arms open and her palms showing?
- Is she smiling while she looks away?
- Look in to her eyes. Are her pupils large or small?
- What kind of things is she saying to you?
 

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magickarl said:
Hard telling without other descriptions of body language.
I agree with that.

Since you didn't mention any specifics, let me consider some factors that might make her blink excessively.
a) Lighting.
b) Nervous tick.
c) She might be a shy girl.
d) She might need eye drops.

-VdoubleR
 

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i once moved some furniture for a woman who could not look people in the eye at all

it was painfully obvious how miserable and alone she was but back then I was a dbag myself so i didn't know how to reach out to her....its very sad when i think about it
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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