girl answers and returns all my phone calls, but never initiates a call?

[seth03]

Hey guys. I just had a quick question: I met a girl 3 weeks ago at my work's happy hour, and she is very shy but very, very cute. I got her number the night I met her, and have called her various times (always within 4-5 day increments, never two days in a row) about hanging out or meeting up, etc. Every time I call her, she either picks up or calls me back immediately. But over the past 3 weeks that I have known her, she has never initiated a call (i.e. called out of the blue to see if I wanted to hang out). Do you think this is b/c of a lack of interest, or is it b/c she wants me to do all the initiating? I am thinking the latter, b/c every time we meet up she seems interested in talking to me only, and is always happy to return my calls. But I guess I am just curious if anyone else had run into the same problem with past women, b/c I don't want to be some annoying bastard she has no interest in, but is only answering b/c she is too nice and shy to do anything else.

 

[speakeasy]

Sounds like the latter. A girl who is not interested would simply not pick up the phone when they see your number on caller ID, yet alone return your call. She's just shy. Nothing to worry about.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Most likely it is because she is shy and she wants to play the girly/feminine part by having you initiate, and be the agressor, etc. That is your role.

It is also your role to make sure you are getting together with her and stop it with all this calling back and forth. Why haven't you asked her to get together. If you have, what are the reasons she gives you for not making it happen.

The longer you wait, the more likely somebody more agresive will make a stronger move.

 

[lYlasTer]

Some girls just have their own set of "rules." In her mind she's thinking, if he's really interested in me he'll call me every night. Don't analyze it too much and go with the flow.

 

[Obsidian]

Gangster is right. Never spend more than a few minutes at a time on the phone.