"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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girl answers and returns all my phone calls, but never initiates a call?

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Hey guys. I just had a quick question: I met a girl 3 weeks ago at my work's happy hour, and she is very shy but very, very cute. I got her number the night I met her, and have called her various times (always within 4-5 day increments, never two days in a row) about hanging out or meeting up, etc. Every time I call her, she either picks up or calls me back immediately. But over the past 3 weeks that I have known her, she has never initiated a call (i.e. called out of the blue to see if I wanted to hang out). Do you think this is b/c of a lack of interest, or is it b/c she wants me to do all the initiating? I am thinking the latter, b/c every time we meet up she seems interested in talking to me only, and is always happy to return my calls. But I guess I am just curious if anyone else had run into the same problem with past women, b/c I don't want to be some annoying bastard she has no interest in, but is only answering b/c she is too nice and shy to do anything else.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sounds like the latter. A girl who is not interested would simply not pick up the phone when they see your number on caller ID, yet alone return your call. She's just shy. Nothing to worry about.
 
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Most likely it is because she is shy and she wants to play the girly/feminine part by having you initiate, and be the agressor, etc. That is your role.

It is also your role to make sure you are getting together with her and stop it with all this calling back and forth. Why haven't you asked her to get together. If you have, what are the reasons she gives you for not making it happen.

The longer you wait, the more likely somebody more agresive will make a stronger move.
 
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Gangster is right. Never spend more than a few minutes at a time on the phone.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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