"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Does this mean she's not into it anymore and I should next her?
She's not initiating hangout out or calls. She just says she's exhausted from work. It's only been a couple weeks of this but I'm getting annoyed.
Any advice? This girl used to contact everyday and would always want to hang out...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Find another plate and stop worrying about this one, sounds like she is your only option. She will contact you again if she wants to. If you made the last meeting arrangements wait for her to ask when your free. If she doesn't don't talk to her again, next.
 
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n52 said:
Find another plate and stop worrying about this one, sounds like she is your only option. She will contact you again if she wants to. If you made the last meeting arrangements wait for her to ask when your free. If she doesn't don't talk to her again, next.
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Sounds like she is just a "plate" right? Shes not your girlfriend? If thats the case you definitely need to take a chill pill. If you are over pursuing a girl it will only push her away even farther. Take some time to meet some new people and she will come back on her own if she wants. If she doesnt....oh well you should be busy with other people that it shouldnt even matter to you.
 
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It sounds like she just needs a little space. Don't "next" her or NC her. Just wait a week and see if she reaches out. If she doesn't, contact her and see if she wants to do something.

If she doesn't, THEN you can next her.

You would not be worrying about this one girl if you had two more to hang out with.
 
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