"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Girl accepts date but then says she is only looking for friendship?

icantgetlaid

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A girl i was dating got in touch with me out of the blue (after a year or so of no contact) .. so i set up a time/place to grab a drink together ... she then tells me she is only looking for friendship AFTER she accepts the date.

e.g. the common advice is to always pay attention to girls actions...not what she says. her actions (accepting a date/a meet for a drink) implies to me there might be some potential here for sex despite her saying she's only looking for friendship.

Is this a major sign of low interest/waste of my time - or should i keep the date and see where this goes?
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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In this situation you say no to friendship 100% of the time. 90% of the time you're dead in the water, but 10% of the time you can still end up scoring if you do everything perfect.

I once got a 2 page letter from a girl in 2003 asking this, and I hemmed and hawed and then replied "no".

To which she replied "F*ck off then!" before saying "Come over here I want to cuddle!" about a week later. Best sex I previously ever had.
 

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Translation. ...she only want's a free meal.
 

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A girl i was dating got in touch with me out of the blue (after a year or so of no contact) .. so i set up a time/place to grab a drink together ... she then tells me she is only looking for friendship AFTER she accepts the date.

e.g. the common advice is to always pay attention to girls actions...not what she says. her actions (accepting a date/a meet for a drink) implies to me there might be some potential here for sex despite her saying she's only looking for friendship.

Is this a major sign of low interest/waste of my time - or should i keep the date and see where this goes?
Flake on her.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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In this situation you say no to friendship 100% of the time. 90% of the time you're dead in the water, but 10% of the time you can still end up scoring if you do everything perfect.

I once got a 2 page letter from a girl in 2003 asking this, and I hemmed and hawed and then replied "no".

To which she replied "F*ck off then!" before saying "Come over here I want to cuddle!" about a week later. Best sex I previously ever had.
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Crazy chick: blah blah
You: LOLZ
 

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She just wants you as a beta orbiter because Chad isn't around.

Why are you bothering with lukewarm interest? I'd either go dutch or flake on her. Your time is better spent playing PS4.

Case closed. Don't be a member of her fan club.
 

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A girl i was dating got in touch with me out of the blue (after a year or so of no contact) .. so i set up a time/place to grab a drink together ... she then tells me she is only looking for friendship AFTER she accepts the date.

e.g. the common advice is to always pay attention to girls actions...not what she says. her actions (accepting a date/a meet for a drink) implies to me there might be some potential here for sex despite her saying she's only looking for friendship.

Is this a major sign of low interest/waste of my time - or should i keep the date and see where this goes?
your response should've implied that you were gonna treat it like a date, if she still goes, knowing that as far as you're concerned you're trying to get laid, that's a good sign

when on the date, escalate, if she lets you, she was all talk. if she doesn't, go dutch
 

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...and chat up the waitresses. A good friend would be happy to back u up :p
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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