"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Girl accepts date but then says she is only looking for friendship?

icantgetlaid

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A girl i was dating got in touch with me out of the blue (after a year or so of no contact) .. so i set up a time/place to grab a drink together ... she then tells me she is only looking for friendship AFTER she accepts the date.

e.g. the common advice is to always pay attention to girls actions...not what she says. her actions (accepting a date/a meet for a drink) implies to me there might be some potential here for sex despite her saying she's only looking for friendship.

Is this a major sign of low interest/waste of my time - or should i keep the date and see where this goes?
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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In this situation you say no to friendship 100% of the time. 90% of the time you're dead in the water, but 10% of the time you can still end up scoring if you do everything perfect.

I once got a 2 page letter from a girl in 2003 asking this, and I hemmed and hawed and then replied "no".

To which she replied "F*ck off then!" before saying "Come over here I want to cuddle!" about a week later. Best sex I previously ever had.
 

wifehunter

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Translation. ...she only want's a free meal.
 

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A girl i was dating got in touch with me out of the blue (after a year or so of no contact) .. so i set up a time/place to grab a drink together ... she then tells me she is only looking for friendship AFTER she accepts the date.

e.g. the common advice is to always pay attention to girls actions...not what she says. her actions (accepting a date/a meet for a drink) implies to me there might be some potential here for sex despite her saying she's only looking for friendship.

Is this a major sign of low interest/waste of my time - or should i keep the date and see where this goes?
Flake on her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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CMNILS87

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In this situation you say no to friendship 100% of the time. 90% of the time you're dead in the water, but 10% of the time you can still end up scoring if you do everything perfect.

I once got a 2 page letter from a girl in 2003 asking this, and I hemmed and hawed and then replied "no".

To which she replied "F*ck off then!" before saying "Come over here I want to cuddle!" about a week later. Best sex I previously ever had.
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Crazy chick: blah blah
You: LOLZ
 

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She just wants you as a beta orbiter because Chad isn't around.

Why are you bothering with lukewarm interest? I'd either go dutch or flake on her. Your time is better spent playing PS4.

Case closed. Don't be a member of her fan club.
 

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A girl i was dating got in touch with me out of the blue (after a year or so of no contact) .. so i set up a time/place to grab a drink together ... she then tells me she is only looking for friendship AFTER she accepts the date.

e.g. the common advice is to always pay attention to girls actions...not what she says. her actions (accepting a date/a meet for a drink) implies to me there might be some potential here for sex despite her saying she's only looking for friendship.

Is this a major sign of low interest/waste of my time - or should i keep the date and see where this goes?
your response should've implied that you were gonna treat it like a date, if she still goes, knowing that as far as you're concerned you're trying to get laid, that's a good sign

when on the date, escalate, if she lets you, she was all talk. if she doesn't, go dutch
 

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...and chat up the waitresses. A good friend would be happy to back u up :p
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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