"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girl accepts date but then says she is only looking for friendship?

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A girl i was dating got in touch with me out of the blue (after a year or so of no contact) .. so i set up a time/place to grab a drink together ... she then tells me she is only looking for friendship AFTER she accepts the date.

e.g. the common advice is to always pay attention to girls actions...not what she says. her actions (accepting a date/a meet for a drink) implies to me there might be some potential here for sex despite her saying she's only looking for friendship.

Is this a major sign of low interest/waste of my time - or should i keep the date and see where this goes?
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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In this situation you say no to friendship 100% of the time. 90% of the time you're dead in the water, but 10% of the time you can still end up scoring if you do everything perfect.

I once got a 2 page letter from a girl in 2003 asking this, and I hemmed and hawed and then replied "no".

To which she replied "F*ck off then!" before saying "Come over here I want to cuddle!" about a week later. Best sex I previously ever had.
 

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Translation. ...she only want's a free meal.
 

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A girl i was dating got in touch with me out of the blue (after a year or so of no contact) .. so i set up a time/place to grab a drink together ... she then tells me she is only looking for friendship AFTER she accepts the date.

e.g. the common advice is to always pay attention to girls actions...not what she says. her actions (accepting a date/a meet for a drink) implies to me there might be some potential here for sex despite her saying she's only looking for friendship.

Is this a major sign of low interest/waste of my time - or should i keep the date and see where this goes?
Flake on her.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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In this situation you say no to friendship 100% of the time. 90% of the time you're dead in the water, but 10% of the time you can still end up scoring if you do everything perfect.

I once got a 2 page letter from a girl in 2003 asking this, and I hemmed and hawed and then replied "no".

To which she replied "F*ck off then!" before saying "Come over here I want to cuddle!" about a week later. Best sex I previously ever had.
Proper reply

Crazy chick: blah blah
You: LOLZ
 

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She just wants you as a beta orbiter because Chad isn't around.

Why are you bothering with lukewarm interest? I'd either go dutch or flake on her. Your time is better spent playing PS4.

Case closed. Don't be a member of her fan club.
 

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A girl i was dating got in touch with me out of the blue (after a year or so of no contact) .. so i set up a time/place to grab a drink together ... she then tells me she is only looking for friendship AFTER she accepts the date.

e.g. the common advice is to always pay attention to girls actions...not what she says. her actions (accepting a date/a meet for a drink) implies to me there might be some potential here for sex despite her saying she's only looking for friendship.

Is this a major sign of low interest/waste of my time - or should i keep the date and see where this goes?
your response should've implied that you were gonna treat it like a date, if she still goes, knowing that as far as you're concerned you're trying to get laid, that's a good sign

when on the date, escalate, if she lets you, she was all talk. if she doesn't, go dutch
 

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...and chat up the waitresses. A good friend would be happy to back u up :p
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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