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Master Don Juan
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Okay I've known this girl for seven years and she had me firmly in the friend zone. Recently we became f-buddies. She said we could be that way as long as I understood not to get emotionally attached. Meanwhile just as we were initially hooking up, she had been telling me about a guy she had planned to go on a date with in a few weeks.
Anyway, weeks go buy and we have some really intimate and emotional moments. She hints at being more than f-buddies but says she isn't sure.
Then a few nights ago she told me she went on the date. I was really hurt as I have grown attached to her. I figured that as we went along she would just get so into me that she would forget about the other guy.
So I react, get upset, tell her that I can't be her friend anymore because it bothers me to see her go out with other guys. She gets completely upset. She cries at the prospect of losing me as a friend. She said she totally regretted the date as she couldn't enjoy herself because she was thinking of me. But at the same time, she says her feelings for me are unsure and she can't say she won't go out with other guys down the road if she gets asked.
I went over to her house last night to comfort her as she was really upset. We had sex for "the last time" and I told her that I need space to get over having feelings for her. She said she understood. Now I really miss talking to her every day as a friend.
The thing is she and I have every reason to get together. The sex is intense. Our friendship is awesome. But obviously she just doesn't feel it for me. I know it's childish of me to cut off the friendship but damn it, my feelings are hurt and I don't want to see her dating other guys.
Did I do the right thing in cutting off the friend ship? If not, what would my other options be?
Anyway, weeks go buy and we have some really intimate and emotional moments. She hints at being more than f-buddies but says she isn't sure.
Then a few nights ago she told me she went on the date. I was really hurt as I have grown attached to her. I figured that as we went along she would just get so into me that she would forget about the other guy.
So I react, get upset, tell her that I can't be her friend anymore because it bothers me to see her go out with other guys. She gets completely upset. She cries at the prospect of losing me as a friend. She said she totally regretted the date as she couldn't enjoy herself because she was thinking of me. But at the same time, she says her feelings for me are unsure and she can't say she won't go out with other guys down the road if she gets asked.
I went over to her house last night to comfort her as she was really upset. We had sex for "the last time" and I told her that I need space to get over having feelings for her. She said she understood. Now I really miss talking to her every day as a friend.
The thing is she and I have every reason to get together. The sex is intense. Our friendship is awesome. But obviously she just doesn't feel it for me. I know it's childish of me to cut off the friendship but damn it, my feelings are hurt and I don't want to see her dating other guys.
Did I do the right thing in cutting off the friend ship? If not, what would my other options be?