Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Gilfriend Acting distant. Need Advice.

SamTheHobit

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Hey Everyone.

I don't know if you can call this girl my "Girlfriend" per say. But we went out a couple times we kissed, held hands..

Anyway We haven't seen each other in a couple of weeks, Some things have come up.

So out of the blue I stop hearing from her. I initiated a couple times over the past few weeks but I get this reply's like shes down or something(Half hearted reply's).

So I decided to just stop initiating and last time we spoke vie text was a week ago.

I just would like to know what is the best course of action?

I know shes going through some stuff. So should I stay ghost. Or send her something ?? I don't know.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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adam225

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Dump her before she dumps you. Then go NC.
 

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Dump her? She's not even his girlfriend. Just go NC. She's done.

Nexxxxt.
 

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how is she your gf when she doesnt even care enough to talk to you
 

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Your Princess is in another castle.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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TheCWord

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Pretty standard SS overreacting here.

YES to No Contact. NO to nexting. Guys are too quick to next on here. Nexting means you are DONE with this girl and you need to cut her out for your own sanity. As in: she texts you, you don't reply. I don't think this girl has OP by the balls enough to warrant a hard next.

Just hang back, don't initiate, and if she comes around and is willing to put in some effort, then, great (but even then, don't give her too much... tease, make it fun, etc.)

Now, if she comes back and then flakes again, NEXT.

P.S. She's not your girlfriend.
 

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TheCWord said:
Pretty standard SS overreacting here.

YES to No Contact. NO to nexting. Guys are too quick to next on here. Nexting means you are DONE with this girl and you need to cut her out for your own sanity. As in: she texts you, you don't reply. I don't think this girl has OP by the balls enough to warrant a hard next.

Just hang back, don't initiate, and if she comes around and is willing to put in some effort, then, great (but even then, don't give her too much... tease, make it fun, etc.)

Now, if she comes back and then flakes again, NEXT.

P.S. She's not your girlfriend.

Not really an overreaction now is it.

OP has kissed her and held hands a couple of times and calls her his GIRLFRIEND.

Girl HAS him by the balls and HAS him headspinning.
She IS IN ANOTHER CASTLE.

She Has Dropped contact FOR WEEKS and doesn't give a fvck about him.


Great - yeah, hang back, dont initiate - but DON'T EXPECT HER TO EITHER.

NEXT.
 

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I kinda mentioned she wasn't really my girlfriend if you bothered to read.

Anyway thanks everyone who posted NC it is.
 

SamTheHobit

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I already did she said she was working, but I get the feeling that's a lie.

I think if she was interested shed initiate contact. I'm not gonna run after her and look needy.
 

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If you have been a mean ******* lately, then thats why. Otherwise, she may being ****ing some one else. Never had a girl cheat, they leave because I was being a ****.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TheCWord said:
Pretty standard SS overreacting here.

YES to No Contact. NO to nexting. Guys are too quick to next on here. Nexting means you are DONE with this girl and you need to cut her out for your own sanity. As in: she texts you, you don't reply. I don't think this girl has OP by the balls enough to warrant a hard next.

Just hang back, don't initiate, and if she comes around and is willing to put in some effort, then, great (but even then, don't give her too much... tease, make it fun, etc.)

Now, if she comes back and then flakes again, NEXT.

P.S. She's not your girlfriend.
^ I agree but would add that you need to spin more plates. Or at least another plate. Even if it's plastic type quality. Less mess to clean up than a porcelain plate :whistle:
 
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