"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Gilfriend Acting distant. Need Advice.

SamTheHobit

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Hey Everyone.

I don't know if you can call this girl my "Girlfriend" per say. But we went out a couple times we kissed, held hands..

Anyway We haven't seen each other in a couple of weeks, Some things have come up.

So out of the blue I stop hearing from her. I initiated a couple times over the past few weeks but I get this reply's like shes down or something(Half hearted reply's).

So I decided to just stop initiating and last time we spoke vie text was a week ago.

I just would like to know what is the best course of action?

I know shes going through some stuff. So should I stay ghost. Or send her something ?? I don't know.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Dump her before she dumps you. Then go NC.
 

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Dump her? She's not even his girlfriend. Just go NC. She's done.

Nexxxxt.
 

foreverAFC

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how is she your gf when she doesnt even care enough to talk to you
 

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Your Princess is in another castle.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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TheCWord

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Pretty standard SS overreacting here.

YES to No Contact. NO to nexting. Guys are too quick to next on here. Nexting means you are DONE with this girl and you need to cut her out for your own sanity. As in: she texts you, you don't reply. I don't think this girl has OP by the balls enough to warrant a hard next.

Just hang back, don't initiate, and if she comes around and is willing to put in some effort, then, great (but even then, don't give her too much... tease, make it fun, etc.)

Now, if she comes back and then flakes again, NEXT.

P.S. She's not your girlfriend.
 

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TheCWord said:
Pretty standard SS overreacting here.

YES to No Contact. NO to nexting. Guys are too quick to next on here. Nexting means you are DONE with this girl and you need to cut her out for your own sanity. As in: she texts you, you don't reply. I don't think this girl has OP by the balls enough to warrant a hard next.

Just hang back, don't initiate, and if she comes around and is willing to put in some effort, then, great (but even then, don't give her too much... tease, make it fun, etc.)

Now, if she comes back and then flakes again, NEXT.

P.S. She's not your girlfriend.

Not really an overreaction now is it.

OP has kissed her and held hands a couple of times and calls her his GIRLFRIEND.

Girl HAS him by the balls and HAS him headspinning.
She IS IN ANOTHER CASTLE.

She Has Dropped contact FOR WEEKS and doesn't give a fvck about him.


Great - yeah, hang back, dont initiate - but DON'T EXPECT HER TO EITHER.

NEXT.
 

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I kinda mentioned she wasn't really my girlfriend if you bothered to read.

Anyway thanks everyone who posted NC it is.
 

SamTheHobit

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I already did she said she was working, but I get the feeling that's a lie.

I think if she was interested shed initiate contact. I'm not gonna run after her and look needy.
 

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If you have been a mean ******* lately, then thats why. Otherwise, she may being ****ing some one else. Never had a girl cheat, they leave because I was being a ****.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheCWord said:
Pretty standard SS overreacting here.

YES to No Contact. NO to nexting. Guys are too quick to next on here. Nexting means you are DONE with this girl and you need to cut her out for your own sanity. As in: she texts you, you don't reply. I don't think this girl has OP by the balls enough to warrant a hard next.

Just hang back, don't initiate, and if she comes around and is willing to put in some effort, then, great (but even then, don't give her too much... tease, make it fun, etc.)

Now, if she comes back and then flakes again, NEXT.

P.S. She's not your girlfriend.
^ I agree but would add that you need to spin more plates. Or at least another plate. Even if it's plastic type quality. Less mess to clean up than a porcelain plate :whistle:
 
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