Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I'm 29, a professional that has done well in my career, though I'm not rich by any means. The girl I've been dating since Oct is 28. We see each other about 1X or 2X a week. What type of gift would you recommend I get her for Valentine's Day? I'm not cheap, so money isn't the concern, it's just getting the appropriate type thing for her. Any suggestions?

And I'm not AFC, have not bought her any type of gift, flowers, etc... until this point.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ur not AFC?
and ur asking this question?

it's ok lol
most of us are still AFC inside, but we fake it till we make it.

about the gift, i would go with anything too expensive.
Make it mean something since it's valentines.

i'm 16 lol, so i wouldn't know wut to give someone that's 28.... but at my school, i'd give girls chocolate, teddy bears.... just something thats red and heart shaped :rock:
 
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I always get chicks those goofy candy hearts with sayings on them. it's like a buck fifty for a decent sized container.
 
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those taste like straight up crap though!
 
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I make it a point not to buy anything for a plate except for her birthday. On Valentine's day my gift to my first place plate will be a get-away weekend. My gift to my runner-ups will be to continue seeing them.

Keep your FRAME.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Why do you feel the need to buy her a gift when she isn't your girlfriend!!!!!!???
 
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Pretend that you're getting castrated in the morning.

Now go wild with her in bed.

That's the best gift you can give her.
 
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You haven't told us yet how tight you are with this chick. What do "dating" and "seeing" mean in YOUR OWN words?
For a lot of us, those words mean next-to-nothing. Too many of us have learned that even "sleeping" with a chick can mean NO $ex! If you're having $ex every time you get together, it means a lot more than just meeting up to go shopping or walking her dog. This chick is special, or at least she thinks she is. In that case, go all out for her.
I don't go by "The Rules", generally, but the Rule about gift-giving makes total sense: Special occasion gifts shall be frivolous and romantic, not sporty or functional.
I've worked for this lovely talented dame for more than ten years, we've "dated" a few times, no $ex. She's done more for my career than just about anyone, so that makes her special. I'm not going wild, but I'm getting her a book about rescued dogs along with a bunch of flowers.
She once told me, I don't need to bring her flowers, which I do for no special occasion. I asked her, "Who else brings you flowers?" Um, nobody, apparently.
 
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I'm getting the girl I would like to get naked a bag of GREEN M&Ms, a funny card, and 2 Purple Roses. Inside the card is going to be a print out of the song "Dirty Mind" from Prince.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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good grief, either i'm so unromantic or old or i dunno what...
but on valentines, i just don't like the crowds when you try to go out.
last year, gio called up chilis and gave them our order and he picked it up, and i made sure there were fresh brownies and cookies and cupcakes ... we had the best time camped out in front of a movie in our very own house.

no need for the little trinkets that later collect dust, or flowers that die in a week....
 
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I think candle light dinner is the best,.,.,.,.:rockon:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Give her a box of chocolates, a CD, take her to a spa or whatever those places are to get a massage... Or like selfmademob said; a d!ck in the box.
 
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My girlfriend and her friends have boycotted valentines day (even though all of them are dating someone. They think that it is an over hyped holiday)

comic_relief
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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