"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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gift for Valentine's Day

baltyre

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I'm 29, a professional that has done well in my career, though I'm not rich by any means. The girl I've been dating since Oct is 28. We see each other about 1X or 2X a week. What type of gift would you recommend I get her for Valentine's Day? I'm not cheap, so money isn't the concern, it's just getting the appropriate type thing for her. Any suggestions?

And I'm not AFC, have not bought her any type of gift, flowers, etc... until this point.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Crazy Asian

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ur not AFC?
and ur asking this question?

it's ok lol
most of us are still AFC inside, but we fake it till we make it.

about the gift, i would go with anything too expensive.
Make it mean something since it's valentines.

i'm 16 lol, so i wouldn't know wut to give someone that's 28.... but at my school, i'd give girls chocolate, teddy bears.... just something thats red and heart shaped :rock:
 

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I always get chicks those goofy candy hearts with sayings on them. it's like a buck fifty for a decent sized container.
 

(JJ)

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those taste like straight up crap though!
 

guru1000

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I make it a point not to buy anything for a plate except for her birthday. On Valentine's day my gift to my first place plate will be a get-away weekend. My gift to my runner-ups will be to continue seeing them.

Keep your FRAME.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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J Roc

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Why do you feel the need to buy her a gift when she isn't your girlfriend!!!!!!???
 

The Bat

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Pretend that you're getting castrated in the morning.

Now go wild with her in bed.

That's the best gift you can give her.
 

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You haven't told us yet how tight you are with this chick. What do "dating" and "seeing" mean in YOUR OWN words?
For a lot of us, those words mean next-to-nothing. Too many of us have learned that even "sleeping" with a chick can mean NO $ex! If you're having $ex every time you get together, it means a lot more than just meeting up to go shopping or walking her dog. This chick is special, or at least she thinks she is. In that case, go all out for her.
I don't go by "The Rules", generally, but the Rule about gift-giving makes total sense: Special occasion gifts shall be frivolous and romantic, not sporty or functional.
I've worked for this lovely talented dame for more than ten years, we've "dated" a few times, no $ex. She's done more for my career than just about anyone, so that makes her special. I'm not going wild, but I'm getting her a book about rescued dogs along with a bunch of flowers.
She once told me, I don't need to bring her flowers, which I do for no special occasion. I asked her, "Who else brings you flowers?" Um, nobody, apparently.
 

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I'm getting the girl I would like to get naked a bag of GREEN M&Ms, a funny card, and 2 Purple Roses. Inside the card is going to be a print out of the song "Dirty Mind" from Prince.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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good grief, either i'm so unromantic or old or i dunno what...
but on valentines, i just don't like the crowds when you try to go out.
last year, gio called up chilis and gave them our order and he picked it up, and i made sure there were fresh brownies and cookies and cupcakes ... we had the best time camped out in front of a movie in our very own house.

no need for the little trinkets that later collect dust, or flowers that die in a week....
 

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I think candle light dinner is the best,.,.,.,.:rockon:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Give her a box of chocolates, a CD, take her to a spa or whatever those places are to get a massage... Or like selfmademob said; a d!ck in the box.
 

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My girlfriend and her friends have boycotted valentines day (even though all of them are dating someone. They think that it is an over hyped holiday)

comic_relief
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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