"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ghosting & Flaking is the New Normal

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The Wall Street Journal has a new article about this topic.

www.wsj.com

Canceling Plans at the Last Minute Is New Normal

The pandemic has made us more accustomed to plans falling through at the last minute. We are more comfortable moving ahead with plans when others back out.
www.wsj.com www.wsj.com

This is not an article about ghosting and flaking in romantic interactions, though it would be applicable.

It tends to cover platonic friends ghosting and flaking each other, people ghosting and flaking on dinner plans with non-romantic contacts, and people ghosting and flaking on attending weddings and going on vacations.

If ghosting and flaking is common even amongst established friends, why should a man bother to make big plans with a stranger? It justifies the immediate home invitation date. That way, if a woman flakes on the plan, you were already just chilling out at home.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It's beyond my understanding how a man can even consider to fix a date with a woman he recently met up to 3 days in advance.

Personally I dont even drive more than 15 minutes in a same day invitation given the chances for things to go wrong despite the brief time distance.

If I have to pick the best setting is agree to meet somewhere where we already go by ourself in a certain time frame...some like "see you at x club around 12" or better yet "Im on my way to y, catch me there if you want".

Regarding non romantic interactions, it gets complicate anytime there is no common place we usually attend like the case of former school mates that live different lifes.
 
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Yep previously idleness and a lack of mental stimulation was enough to fuel the desire for regular social interaction to curb the boredom. Nowadays... Bored? The days and hours can easily be burned through endlessly browse IG, watch netflix/ youtube, open up your overflowing DM's for some validation ( if you're female), open up pornhub if you're in heat.

Way to much **** at peoples fingertips for stimulation to care about missing out on anything so why not flake..
 
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