"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ghosting & Flaking is the New Normal

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The Wall Street Journal has a new article about this topic.

www.wsj.com

Canceling Plans at the Last Minute Is New Normal

The pandemic has made us more accustomed to plans falling through at the last minute. We are more comfortable moving ahead with plans when others back out.
www.wsj.com www.wsj.com

This is not an article about ghosting and flaking in romantic interactions, though it would be applicable.

It tends to cover platonic friends ghosting and flaking each other, people ghosting and flaking on dinner plans with non-romantic contacts, and people ghosting and flaking on attending weddings and going on vacations.

If ghosting and flaking is common even amongst established friends, why should a man bother to make big plans with a stranger? It justifies the immediate home invitation date. That way, if a woman flakes on the plan, you were already just chilling out at home.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Who Dares Win

Who Dares Win

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It's beyond my understanding how a man can even consider to fix a date with a woman he recently met up to 3 days in advance.

Personally I dont even drive more than 15 minutes in a same day invitation given the chances for things to go wrong despite the brief time distance.

If I have to pick the best setting is agree to meet somewhere where we already go by ourself in a certain time frame...some like "see you at x club around 12" or better yet "Im on my way to y, catch me there if you want".

Regarding non romantic interactions, it gets complicate anytime there is no common place we usually attend like the case of former school mates that live different lifes.
 
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Yep previously idleness and a lack of mental stimulation was enough to fuel the desire for regular social interaction to curb the boredom. Nowadays... Bored? The days and hours can easily be burned through endlessly browse IG, watch netflix/ youtube, open up your overflowing DM's for some validation ( if you're female), open up pornhub if you're in heat.

Way to much **** at peoples fingertips for stimulation to care about missing out on anything so why not flake..
 
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