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Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

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Like the title implies my gf went out with a guy to drink. She got drunk and sleep at his place at another room, and nothing happen that's what she told me. Basically she told me the whole story after 2 weeks. What do you think I should do? I'm definitely not okay with her drinking with another guy and get drunk because I know its easy to get ****. This actually happen when we got into an argument, and during that week of argument she went out drinking. In my mind I was thinking ****ing ***** she wants another ****. Thanks god the guy is a ****ing chode and didn't try to **** her. But I know it was very easy for her to get ****, if it was a regular guy with some game. My question is how should I react?
 

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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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You really don't give much details as to why she's out drinking with whoever this guy is and going back to his place. It doesn't matter. I'd tell her that what she did betrays every trust I'd want from her in a relationship. I'd next her, and hold fast. She's hung herself. I'd hurt her and break up with her in the most delightful fashion I could dream up. Then I'd go NC for 1 month, and find myself in a whole new frame of mind.
 
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RacerEx said:
You really don't give much details as to why she's out drinking with whoever this guy is and going back to his place. It doesn't matter. I'd tell her that what she did betrays every trust I'd want from her in a relationship. I'd next her, and hold fast. She's hung herself. I'd hurt her and break up with her in the most delightful fashion I could dream up. Then I'd go NC for 1 month, and find myself in a whole new frame of mind.
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She went out drinking with another guy because we got into an argument that week, and she though we broke up. But again if she did lie would she have told me this, or keep it as a secret? and I would have never found out.
 
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walker_hunter2010 said:
Like the title implies my gf went out with a guy to drink. She got drunk and sleep at his place at another room, and nothing happen that's what she told me. Basically she told me the whole story after 2 weeks. What do you think I should do? I'm definitely not okay with her drinking with another guy and get drunk because I know its easy to get ****. This actually happen when we got into an argument, and during that week of argument she went out drinking. In my mind I was thinking ****ing ***** she wants another ****. Thanks god the guy is a ****ing chode and didn't try to **** her. But I know it was very easy for her to get ****, if it was a regular guy with some game. My question is how should I react?
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She got drunk and sleep at his place at another room, and nothing happen that's what she told me.
This one is in the books. Time to look for a new GF.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ill probably need to confront her again and ill blow it up. But im not sure, what if she was telling the truth? Come on guys what would you guys have done?
 
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Well, she's your girlfriend yet she went to go DRINK WITH ANOTHER MAN.

Not only that, she went TO HIS PLACE.

Both of them drunk + his place = sex.

She's lying to you. In this situation, don't think about her. Think about what's best for you. Now, she's clearly lying to you. Even if she isn't, she still went out drinking with another man and went to his place! Do yourself a favor and just forget her and keep moving forward with your life. Don't look back for her. Just keep improving yourself and forget, let her stay in the past, thats the best you can do for yourself.
 
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Correction on thread title...

GF went out with guy and got railed.
 
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There's two reasons why she would be nervous to tell you.

1) She knows she's done something wrong, ie. she fvcked him.
2) She didn't fvck him, but suspects that you have enough of a spine to walk away at disrespect like this so she still doesn't really want you to know.
 
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She ****ed up and you know it. Yea it sucks, but she was 100% disrespectful and why would she tell you 2 weeks later? Just makes it seem like she was hiding something. Whatever she did with that guy, you don't want to be with someone who goes out drinking and then stays over drunk in a guys room. On to the next one my friend
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You two had an argument, in typical female fashion she acts with her emotions instead of thinking rationally and does something dumb. Her hamster brain uses chick logic to rationalize her sh*t behavior. Is this the type of chick that you want to continue to give your time to? Will you ever be able to trust her? Every time you have an argument or she's pissed off you have to wonder what she's going to do. Fvck that. Walk. You're better off.
 
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She totally went out for revenge d*ck and ordered a big serve of it, then did the old "tell him 1/2 the story so he'll believe the other 1/2" shtick*. Sorry bro. Expect it next time you fight too.

*sometimes also dressed up as "we slept in the same bed but didn't f*ck", or the old "we f*cked but I didn't enjoy it at all"
 
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When a fresh account (joined this month, very few posts) starts a thread with completely idiotic content, you can count on it being a troll thread.
 
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walker_hunter2010 said:
Like the title implies my gf went out with a guy to drink. She got drunk and sleep at his place at another room, and nothing happen that's what she told me. Basically she told me the whole story after 2 weeks. What do you think I should do? I'm definitely not okay with her drinking with another guy and get drunk because I know its easy to get ****. This actually happen when we got into an argument, and during that week of argument she went out drinking. In my mind I was thinking ****ing ***** she wants another ****. Thanks god the guy is a ****ing chode and didn't try to **** her. But I know it was very easy for her to get ****, if it was a regular guy with some game. My question is how should I react?
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I'm sorry man but what she did was disrespectful. Think about it (common sense and logic)...

YOUR GIRLFRIEND went out drinking with ANOTHER GUY, gets DRUNK with THIS GUY, crashes at HIS PLACE and CLAIMS she was just in ANOTHER ROOM.

OK, to be fair if she got drunk and the whole situation was platonic (which I highly doubt) and she did have some respect for you she could've....

1. Crashed at her friend's place
2. Taken a cab and go directly home

BUT SHE DIDN'T... The only way you find out is through an argument.

MEN AND WOMEN WHO GO OUT TOGETHER TO GET SMASHED AND SLEEP OVER AT THE GUY'S PLACE HAVE ONE THING IN MIND, THEY'RE DOWN TO FVCK.

IF SHE HAD ANY RESPECT FOR YOU AND THE RELATIONSHIP SHE WOULD'VE ACTED LIKE A LADY AND PURSUE THOSE 2 OPTIONS ABOVE BUT SHE DIDN'T. EVEN THE SLIGHTEST CHANCE SHE DIDN'T CHEAT ON YOU, SHE DOESN'T RESPECT THE BOUNDARIES OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

Personally I would get rid of her and pursue other women. You might consider her as an fvck buddy/low level plate but for the most I would get rid of her. Ultimately, it's your choice but just remember this...

IF SOMEONE WAS IMPORTANT/VALUABLE TO US WE WOULD NEVER RISK LOSING THEM.
 
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Mauser96 said:
Exactly. Same poster, same MO. Starts a thread and no matter what advice given, keeps changing the scenario making it worse so it can't be solved.
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I hope I just didn't post in vain because if I did I just wasted a good 5 min...:eek:
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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walker_hunter2010 said:
Like the title implies my gf went out with a guy to drink. She got drunk and sleep at his place at another room, and nothing happen that's what she told me. Basically she told me the whole story after 2 weeks. What do you think I should do? I'm definitely not okay with her drinking with another guy and get drunk because I know its easy to get ****. This actually happen when we got into an argument, and during that week of argument she went out drinking. In my mind I was thinking ****ing ***** she wants another ****. Thanks god the guy is a ****ing chode and didn't try to **** her. But I know it was very easy for her to get ****, if it was a regular guy with some game. My question is how should I react?
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Troll post. Nobody is that stupid.
 
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Stop feeding the troll.
 
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Well, she's your girlfriend yet she went to go DRINK WITH ANOTHER MAN.

Not only that, she went TO HIS PLACE.

Both of them drunk + his place = sex.

She's lying to you. In this situation, don't think about her. Think about what's best for you. Now, she's clearly lying to you. Even if she isn't, she still went out drinking with another man and went to his place! Do yourself a favor and just forget her and keep moving forward with your life. Don't look back for her. Just keep improving yourself and forget, let her stay in the past, thats the best you can do for yourself.
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This. Repped. ^^^^^^
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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