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Yewki

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Tell her one time that you think having a dinner "date" with another guy is disrespectful towards you. That's it, don't go any further. Don't repeat yourself. Don't argue. If she goes ahead and has the date anyways, you know where you stand.
 

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If she cheated on you in the past and she's asking you to go on a date with another guy cmon man look at it from a third point of view. I been in ur shoes. Didn't end well
Just once for MR tutor. Male friends I told her not to go out with them
 
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Tell her one time that you think having a dinner "date" with another guy is disrespectful towards you. That's it, don't go any further. Don't repeat yourself. Don't argue. If she goes ahead and has the date anyways, you know where you stand.
You do know if I tell her this, next time she wont tell me ****.
 

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Tell her one time that you think having a dinner "date" with another guy is disrespectful towards you. That's it, don't go any further. Don't repeat yourself. Don't argue. If she goes ahead and has the date anyways, you know where you stand.
You do know if I tell her this, next time she wont tell me ****.
you believing that confirms she's playing you. Either snap out of it or suffer the consequences down the line.
 

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I wouldn't know there wouldn't be a next time. She can go against my back, and not tell me.
... ummm no, there wouldn't be a next time because you would have dropped her. Right?

The fact you think she'd do any of this stuff behind your back is already a red flag you should walk away. If you think she'd go to this first "date" behind your back, find out when it is and try to schedule something with her at the same time. Or just say f*ck it and walk now.
 

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Guys that really with dump her, why don't you guys provide some value. Anyone can say, dump her. Please explain the reason behind it, or rather don't post ****.
Because she dosent respect you. If a girl is into you she wouldn't be going to dinner with a male tutor. It is not respectful. She knows it and is playing you so she can get validation and who knows what else. Grow a spine and dump her she is not looking out for your feelings.
 

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Congratulations OP but you got the Beta of the Year award!

it doesnt really matter what you do because you're into her, and she's not into you. And this is why you're posting here, while she's riding that guys cöck.


Advise? get rid of her so you get some dignity back.
 

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Women always know when men are interested in them. ALWAYS. She knows this dude wants her, and is telling you so that she won't feel guilty is something "just happens".

With women it's always "it just happened", She "just happened" to be out on a date with a guy, she knows like her, and she 'just happened', to let his hand slide down her leg, and his hand "just happened" to find it's way past her bra.... and her face "just happened" to land on his c0ck, and he 'just happened' to start fvcking her. It was all just a complete accident, she didn't mean it to be this way, it "just happened".

Sh!t doesn't just happen. She is thinking of branch jumping. Nothing you can do about it, just start dating other girls. But if you feel like you have to do something then just do this... Tell her she can go out on dates with other guys, that's fine, tell her if she wants an open relationship, that's fine, you'll just start wearing condoms. But if she's going out on dates, then she isn't your girlfriend anymore, she'll just be one a a few that you are casually dating... or if she just wants to be a fvck buddy, that's okay too.

There is NOTHING you can do if your girl wants to start fvcking other dudes... NOTHING you can't stop it, and no amount of weak @ss needy begging behavior will change her mind. You just have to be willing to let her go, if she loves you she won't go out. If she does, well.... go get other women.
 

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My professional advice as a teacher of adults? We are more interesting then you boring working joes and if I take a girl out for dinner that has a boyfriend, she's guaranteed more interested in me than you.

Kerplah! You are a klingon.
 

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You do know if I tell her this, next time she wont tell me ****.
There should not be a next time. She can't be trusted. If a woman cheats on me she is gone. You are tied up emotionally to a woman that doesn't respect you and cheated on you. She is trash...**** you stepped in...you are just opening yourself up to more pain. If you want that then go ahead.
 

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She made her "covert" intent, "overt." Her mistake. Now build your harem and demote her to a plate. Don't overtly disclose her relegation.

Meantime: Give her a condom. Tell her to "have fun."
 

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Like the title says, my gf is going out for dinner male tutor. This guy seems to be very nice to her ever offer her a discount for classes 6 hours for 90$, and now he wants to go to dinner with her. Should I be worry, or am I paranoid. Usually i'm not like this, I let her go out with male friends when there is a group, but not one on one meeting. What should I do guys.
Nope , you are a troll. Nobody's that stupid.

“Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the universe.”
― Albert Einstein
 

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Mate, sorry this is a date.
My ex ex from about 13 years ago (I was with her 6 years) pulled this stunt. It went like this:

Her = Hey Jake, My old schoolfriend has returned to town, he's asked me if I want to meet him for lunch, it's all above board he has a girlfriend. Do you mind?

Me = Hey good, yeah no worries as long as your sure he's not got any other ideas go for it, you'll enjoy it I bet. (At this point I trusted her 100pc and had never over all the years give me ANY reason for suspicion)

Month later, Where she would reply quick, it was now taking her much more time.
2 months later, Attitude issues, causing arguments, not being herself. Phone rang with odd number she looked shocked/didnt know what to say.
3 months later, she caused big argument completely ghosted on me for 48 hours, phone switched off.
A little while later it emerges she had been seeing this guy right behind my back and having sleazy sex sessions in his ****ty used car in a layby.

The key is: If the guy is a tutor then he can either tutor her professionally like all his other students or perhaps come round to yours to do the tutoring while your there.

A dinner??? Nah mate, the tutor is up to no good and she's playing dumb to make you think its all innocent.

If it was me i'd tell her i've got an ex coming round to visit while shes at this 'lunch' and then give her the sack when she gets back.

PS, just to stick the knife in I'd report the tutor...im sure there are strict rules on tutor-pupil behaviour in most establishments.
Taking a pupil out to dinner has nothing to do with giving actual educational lessons.
I doubt this guy even knows you exist.
 
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I happen to be the tutor, i can confirm everything said here.
 

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Mate, sorry this is a date.
My ex ex from about 13 years ago (I was with her 6 years) pulled this stunt. It went like this:

Her = Hey Jake, My old schoolfriend has returned to town, he's asked me if I want to meet him for lunch, it's all above board he has a girlfriend. Do you mind?

Me = Hey good, yeah no worries as long as your sure he's not got any other ideas go for it, you'll enjoy it I bet. (At this point I trusted her 100pc and had never over all the years give me ANY reason for suspicion)

Month later, Where she would reply quick, it was now taking her much more time.
2 months later, Attitude issues, causing arguments, not being herself. Phone rang with odd number she looked shocked/didnt know what to say.
3 months later, she caused big argument completely ghosted on me for 48 hours, phone switched off.
A little while later it emerges she had been seeing this guy right behind my back and having sleazy sex sessions in his ****ty used car in a layby.

The key is: If the guy is a tutor then he can either tutor her professionally like all his other students or perhaps come round to yours to do the tutoring while your there.

A dinner??? Nah mate, the tutor is up to no good and she's playing dumb to make you think its all innocent.

If it was me i'd tell her i've got an ex coming round to visit while shes at this 'lunch' and then give her the sack when she gets back.

PS, just to stick the knife in I'd report the tutor...im sure there are strict rules on tutor-pupil behaviour in most establishments.
Taking a pupil out to dinner has nothing to do with giving actual educational lessons.
I doubt this guy even knows you exist.
It very well might be educational! He might teach her a lot more than he has been while tutoring her...hahaha
 

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Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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